Why do adults make such a huge deal out of teen sex?

It's clear you have your mind made up about why adults view teen sex negatively, but I do not agree with your conclusions.

A lot of teens have the information about sex, but are not mentally sophisticated enough to handle the relationship as it is supposed to be. Women/girls are generally in the relationship for love and attention and guys pretty much just want the sex - regardless of what they say to get to it. They don't really KNOW what they feel and their feelings are basically being hurricaned by their sex drive.

But I know where you are coming from, my Dad had jerk friends in high school and assumed (WRONGLY) that mine were too. Also, he thought somehow that girls are universally stupid and can hear how lame boys lines sound trying to get us in bed. The problem is when you run into a player who runs good lines.

Just remember that there is a wide range of levels of maturity for teens. It's not as even a playing field as it seems. I am working with a girl that I thought was 19 or 20. Not because of how she looks, but rather, how she acts. It turns out she is 28.

P.S. The list of women who wish they'd lost their virginity sooner is a pretty short one. The list of fathers with daughters who would love to shotgun every teenage boy is a long one. You might think about why this should be the case, generation after generation.

I understand what you mean, but we really are still kids.

I'm sure our parents made plenty of mistakes in their teen years, and they simply don't want us to experience that. Losing your Virginity is a big deal; you can't get it back once it's gone, and losing it to the wrong person would be very emotionally damaging. Your Parents could have experienced that, so they would understand how much it hurts to feel used, or even 'stupid' for not finding the right guy. It's an easy mistake many people make, and girls at that age are very Naive. They tend to think for other people, when that's a crucial time where they should really be focusing on their own feelings/wants/needs. A lot of Teen guys are the opposite, and think way too much about THEIR feelins/wants/needs rather than the girls. In other words, they think with their Penis not their Brain :)

Of course, Teen Pregnancy is also a problem, because a lot of the time pregnant Teenagers are still in school, and are having trouble supporting just themselves as it is.

I'm going to wait until I'm Married.

♥M.

Parents cant just relax, because they love their children. Parents letting their kids make their own mistakes, who has to pay for the kids mistakes, the parents do.

And yes your right kids do know more about sex now because of their peers and the internet. But too the teens of yesterday are now adults of today and they are paying for their own teenage sexual behaviors and for many it is not a very good life and they would like to spare the teens of today of having to grow threw the same pain.

i always thought that the reason why parents make a big deal out of sex b/c they don`t want anyone`s feelings taken 4 granted. they want us 2 be safe but sometimes silly teens end up not using a condom and end up pregnant. however you are right some of us know how 2 protect ourselves 4rom STD`s and pregnancy but sometimes condoms and birth control could not work and someone will end up pregnant. both of these contraceptives are NOT 100%. also, parents want 2 make sure their kids are not being taken advantage of...some guys like 2 say things that will get girls 2 have sex w/ them and some girls fall 4 it and end up being taken advantage of...

however parents are so protective b/c this phase of having sex as a teen is showing our maturity. we are not babies anymore and we are about 2 embark on adulthood so they feel the need 2 treat you like a baby but if we as teens would honestly sit down w/ our parents and explain what we want 2 do in an adult manner then i think more parents will view us in a "better light" and could possibly see us as making a choice instead of sneaking around having sex b/c we don`t know how our parents will react! things like "sneaking" is why parents are always on our backs!

All parents want the best for the kids and the best future for their children definitely does not include having kids when you're a teen. Yes parents should let their children make their own mistakes so that they learn from it better, but in this case its too much of a risk to take.

Aside from that, Christian/Jewish/Catholic/etc families do not support sex before marriage, that is why when they know that their kids are have sex, they freak out.

I'm sure parents are learning now the proper way to educate a child about sex, and maybe one day when you become a parent, you'll understand better.

You're all wrong. Teens shoudn't have sex because it affects you emotionally more so than anything else. If you think you love someone and have sex with them it makes everything so much harder when you get bored with them. I really wish i woud have waited because now i have all these ghosts of past relationships and drunken mistakes to live with. Not to mention that condoms don't always protect you from stds. genital warts can be passed so easily. I would never risk sex until after I were married If I were you.

P.S. I'm a 19 yr old male in college. So no i'm not trying to be a preachy parent, it's just how I feel.

Gosh, you sound just like I did when I was a teenager. I am a 36-year-old mother now, and I would sh*t if my teenager was having sex. That isn't just because of the physical aspects of it, but the emotional ones. I look back at some of the things that I did as a teenager, and I wasn't ready at all. It is a fact that teenagers reason with the emotional part of their brain, adults reason with the logical part. It is true that there is more information available to teenagers now, but it doesn't change the fact that most teenagers just aren't emotionally or psychologically mature enough to handle sex. You only have one first time, and the greater percentage of teenagers don't end up marrying their teenage partners. We just worry, it is that simple. We want better for our children than we had, or did, for ourselves. I hope that helps to understand why we freak out.

any smart parent isn't worried that teens don't know about protection, they are worried about the fact that teen boys are only after sex, and teen girls are very easy to get sex from due to their insecurities. Teens shouldn't be having sex this early, the smart thing to do is wait until you're ready and with someone you truly care about, and truly cares about you. There's nothing wrong with waiting.

because if u end up knocked up you cant take care of the situation on your own.. you shouldnt be doing something if u cant man up to the consequences of your actions.. sure u can say id have my baby and love it! but going through school and college and job hunting and what not, while having a baby, sucks. think about it. parents are most always right.

i think because from their experience, perhaps you want to experience they just dont want you to regret it later. because anything in life you might do it and later regret it and wish you could take it back so as a 19 year old male i suggest you just take your time and focuse more into life ... good luck one love!!!