Question for any girl who is in love, or has been in love with someone?

Girls love a guy who is secure in himself, commands respect, can laugh at himself, is kind, and who makes her feel secure in the relationship. Know who you are, regardless of others opinions of you. If you believe in yourself, others will too. My man has all the above attributes and then some. He is sexy, mature, secure, respects me and himself, has his crap together, and talks with me and laughs with me. I am so in love with him that it overwhelms me sometimes. God bless you and good luck

Sometimes it's just the little things...

If you're in a convo with a chick you really like, hold eye contact - not in a creepy way, but maybe just a couple seconds longer than you're comfortable - it's a mysterious, intimate thing, and we ladies seem to go for that.

Also, don't worry about being reserved, it makes you look smart. Don't try to be someone you're not - instead, work with what you've got. Practice being confident (but not arrogant!) and eventually you will be a confident person. All you have to do is practice it at home by telling yourself you're an intelligent, confident guy, then when you're around your friends, and eventually it will come through with the ladies as well.

Lastly, remain positive. I know it's tough to be optimistic when you're going through a dry spell, but displaying any negativity is guaranteed to send the ladies in the other direction. The best way to show your positive self is to SMILE. Sounds corny, but smiles are proven to draw people together (something else to practice at home in the mirror).

Good luck!

awww you sound cool

what made me fall for my ex Bf was actually the way he was so shy and yet mysterious and fun at the same time. I loved that he didnt have great social skills (nor do I sometimes so I felt like we would understand one another) and that we had little things in common, - drinking green tea, liking Eastern Culture, liking art and not wanting kids.

I also liked the way he was quite approachable, nothing intimidating about him at all. And I liked his silly sense of humour, it really was quite unique. Sometimes you have to forget what ur looking for to find it - when I met him, he was like none of the other guys I have liked in the past. If you dont see yourself as desireable then other ppl wont either. You have to learn to accept urself warts and all before you can give off those "good vibes" that are so attractive. It might take time but EVERYONE finds someone in the end.

I am in love with my boyfriend... I would have to say that there isn't just one thing that made me fall for him it is a mixture of many things. He is very sweet, easy to talk to and he understands me. (Most of the time. lol.) There are definitely more things about him that I love and make me love him but these stick out the most. All I can say to your situation is that you need to be more outgoing and...not necessarily like your friends, but steal some of their tricks :). No one ever said it was a crime... You have to be brave, most girls want a sense of 'cockyness' in a guy. Don't be conceited but be likeable. Go up to a girl, start a conversation, tell jokes. Even if you see a couple girls around your friends just butt in the conversation and act like you are who you want to be. You have to like yourself to let a girl like you, it just doesnt work out otherwise. And if you are going to college and a university, you must be smart and know what you are talking about with some things, find a girl that you have stuff in common with. Trust me, I'm not that old and I've had my fair share of faulty relationships... it takes a while.. You have to look and someday you will succeed..

GOOD LUCK! :)

Confidence and a sense of humour are attractive features in a guy, but it's the little quirks they have that really make me love them. The little things that make them different are the things I find most endearing.

Girls probably don't pay much attention to you because you are shy and reserved - this can be (mis)interpreted as you being uninterested. Try being a little more pro-active - talk to girls, make the first move.

My guy is the best! I don't know if there was any one thing; I just met him and thought he was a male version of me. He's very polite to everyone (he once told me he's never met a little old lady who didn't like him, lol). He's smart, funny, and a bit old-fashioned (used to say things like "oh gosh" or "gee whiz", hehe).

Here's the thing though: he likes himself. And because he likes himself, he can find love. When you don't love yourself, you can't give yourself to someone. So get your self-confidence up there. Just because you haven't found the girl of your dreams yet doesn't mean she's not out there. You're not even 20 yet. My man is almost 15 years older than you. These things don't generally fall into place when you're that young. You need to get your life straightened out first.

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, we are high school sweethearts and i love him dearly. At first i had no interest in him, he seemed mean and distant from people and he didn't talk much to anyone but his circle of friends. Then he started talking to me one day in class, and we began talking more and more. We were very good friends for a couple of months and then he asked me out. Since then we've never broken up once.

What i really love about him is how he is himself no matter what, hes funny, hes kind, hes a bit of a dork (Video games and such but it fits him), and he listens to me and always wants to fix my problems.

Its hard to be shy, i know, but eventually you'll get loose of it, have some confidence.

Shy people always have a harder time finding love, but don't loose hope. Maybe if you smile more and greet girls more often, you will seem friendlier and girls really respond to friendliness. I think that good qualities shy people usually have are sensitivity, being good listeners, being mysterious and being loyal (usually). You will find someone, be yourself from the very beginning so girls will know what to expect.

well, for starters...confidence is key. be interesting. have goals, ambitions and dreams. dont be too quiet or shy. talk and also act a little cocky at times, girls like a little bit of attitude, but not a mean attitude. total confidence and social is pretty much what starts a relationship in any form. then thats when the love part comes. its not about what the person does for someone to fall in love with them, its who you are. you just have to put yourself out there!

Aww u seam lovely

Every girl likes different qualities but the main ones are confidence and a good sense of humour (well 4 me anyway)

But I love it when guys show a interest and compliment me (makes you feel good if its subtle)

Im sure you have lots of loveable qualities iv know gorgeous lovely people who have been single for ages and it just makes no sense

(Good things come to those who wait)

xxxx

Currently I am in love...and we just have so much in common..for example I am a very sarcastic person and so is my boyfriend...that's one thing that we have that hits our love. We love to do the same things like go to the beach or have dinner at a cute restaurant. You just need to find a girl that YOU like who likes YOU back for who you are...I'm sure you are a great guy and don't say your boring because trust me i am almost positive you will find someone that will love you. :)

Goodluckk wish you the BEST!!