What do you guys think about this article?

It reads like a puff-piece touting the beauty of domestic infant adoption. Same old song and dance.

I'd like to see an article in one of these AP-centric publications that is written by an adoptee or natural mother who thinks adoption stinks. But they wouldn't dare publish it, would they?

If it she had to time to write a book about it them she could explore further the other issues that can come up resulting from adoption in some cases.

I think she still covered a fair amount of ground and tried to keep a balance in there. One of the adoption myths ("The troubled adoptee") I felt she could have put a line or two in to expand a bit more on the not so bright side for some adoptee's. (But then the allowed word count for the article might have cut her short.Yes articles do have limits on those things.)

Overall she tried to sensible and realistic in writing it. At least she pointed out things like open adoption being a good idea and not cutting out biological families. Its the most balanced article anyone has posted a link to here in ages.

I have people look at me in disbelief that out children are adopted locally. I can relate to that scene at the BBQ. (Aust local adoption.)

I think the article is written for PAP who want to hear what they want to hear.

I mostly have a problem with this one:

"Myth #6: the troubled adoptee

Perhaps the most damaging myth of all is the one that says adoptees are disproportionately troubled, developmentally and emotionally. If anything, recent research suggests, adoptees may be better adjusted than their non-adopted peers. Adopted adolescents have a positive self-image and resolve their identity concerns "at rates as high or higher than their peers," according to a study titled Growing Up Adopted, conducted by the Minneapolis-based Search Institute. The study also found that adolescent adoptees have "extremely high rates of strong attachment to adoptive parents"—debunking the notion that adoptive families have weaker bonds than those related by blood"

That is the kind of thinking my adoptive parents were taught. That being adopted should not affect me much emotionally. But personally, being adopted has been the one thing that has stunted my emotional growth the most completely. I would not say that my bonds with my adoptive family are weak (I love them dearly) but the bond I have with them is different than I would have with my biological family. It's not a primal bond that I was meant to share with them.

I think a good part of these "myths" can be truth for many adoptees, they just can't be lumped in one way or another, as there are those who are very well attatched to their aparents, aren't "troubled", nor do they have identity issues. But I also think that many adoptees are now coming out of the woodwork and confirming many of these myths as truth in their situation. The myth part about the wait and open adoption may well be true, I am not well versed in that part at all. But for the rest of it, I can say for myself, I look at the myths and see parts of them that are my truth.

There certainly is allot to think about and consider when it comes to adoption! I believe that if any couple infertile or not trying to adopt should disscuss such issues going along with an adoption! If there strong enough to handle them, they should go right ahead on there quest to be parents, an adopt!

The myths are just a one person point of view she has her right to her own opinion so i will not judge!

Dear Autumn,

I also felt that this was a "fluff piece". I found the author's flippant attitude towards very REAL issues annoying. She covered NOTHING that happens for the adoptee after adoption and her dismissive attitude towards First Parents is thinly disguised. This comes across as recruitment propaganda for PAPs to me. It is too "glossy" about the realities of the experience for anyone other than APs.

I can only speak for myself. My adolescence would curl hair. I tested relationships in a way that an average parent, armed with nothing but statistics, could not begin to comprehend. I wish the author luck in the future.