Why do spouses want to blame each other when both are at fault.?

The truth of the matter is that they are both at fault even though neither of them want to admit it. Either of them had a right to do what they did,and if they do not start trusting each other and telling each other what is really going their marriage is doomed for disaster,no matter who did what they just need to move on forgive then share all even if they know the other may like what ever the other has to say.

So you're saying her being a snoop somehow justifies the husband's infidelity?

Or does the hubby know she also cheated and had a revenge affair?

And as far as playing the blame game. It can be any situation - not just infidelity - no one wants to be wrong. Everyone want's to be right.

Er it's his fault, he cheated.

So what if she wasn't the perfect wife and was a bit paranoid? There's communication, counselling, divorce in that case, not cheating.

Snooping doesn't give somebody a licence to cheat. That's breaking the marriage vows and very wrong. You promise to forsake all others. You don't promise not to snoop.

Yes, in terms of the overall decline of the relationship, that takes two. But when one party cheats, you can't blame the other party for their cheating. There are so many things to do if you're unhappy instead of cheat.

Harriet

Like I said before if you r going to talk say the truth SWIFTCHICK u r bullshit, you aint nothing, how you gon go on web like that other man and talk half of the story, first of all, ***** you don't know me! Second, of all quit frontin like you got a girlfriend that has this issue, truth of matter is that you n d person that is putting me on net like this have a total friendship that was unknown to me! N both of you r enjoying it laughin bout it, n since u gon talk smack to me at least tell him to tell you the truth or you might know the truth and are just his next victim! Proven case right here that he is manipulating you! Oh wait! he must be trying to play that role of him being completely innocent!! ha! u just fell for it!!Joke's on you broad!

Is she soliciting on your suggestion? If she's no longer, i may well be hesitant to grant any, because it probable in basic terms isn't properly recieved. you do no longer could in basic terms take a seat there quietly collectively as she's says issues you thoroughly disagree with and acts such as you may agree. yet while she's no longer probably chatting with you approximately it plenty, i might refrain from giving your opinion. you do no longer supply plenty element with regard to the placement, yet I in many cases think of that the guy who has the affair needs to take duty for (as a effect) her movements. particular, the husband's habit - despite it could have been - could have contributed to her selection to have an affair. yet there are different techniques for handling a problematical marriage, alongside with chatting along with her husband approximately her concerns, in seek of counseling, getting a divorce, and so on. the alternative to have an affair replaced into finally hers and he or she could be taking duty for making that selection.

No one likes to accept the fact that they are imperfect, especially when they feel hurt. Sounds like they both have trust issues, especially her, because she has a guilty conscience. Looks like both partners have some self analysis to do.

It's very possible he finally just cheated on her out of shear frustration. No excuse, I would just entrapped her to make it look like she was cheating and not married her.

I was just saying to my sweet husband this morning that you might indeed be the prettiest girl in the world!

I love you!

Yep. Accuse a man often enough and he will take it as permission to do his thing.

No one wants to realize the have a negative impact on others.

P.S. erika you are a dumbshit