I'm in a costent battle with my 12 year old daughter about wearing make-up.?

I know I may get alot of thumbs down for this but my daughter started with make-up at 12 and not just lip gloss. I monitor the whole clown effect but realistically children who aren't given room to start expressing themselves will do it with or without your permission. Just they will do it be hind your back. wouldn't you rather have an open relationship going into her teenage years. This really is a minor thing in the grand scheme of things it's not like it's sex which I might add you won't have much control over either. But by giving a little and not keeping the reins so tight a more open relationship might give you a little more pull when the important stuff comes up, like drugs, sex and drinking. Come on you guys it's only make-up!

It's very important for a young girl to be accepted by her peers. And

doing what everyone else does, is important, to be accepted. The

majority seems to rule on that. I would relax on the rules, and allow

her to wear a lightly tinted lip gloss or a very light lipstick, with a bit

of peach or pink color. This is a good time for her to learn how to take

good care of her hair, rather than focus on other makeup. So encour-

age her to wash her hair often, and brush it daily both morning and

evening or in between to encourage growth and strengthening. Make

her see how important eating well is, so that she gets the right

balance of vegitables and fruits along with small amounts of protein.

She will need to be spending more time with her complexion soon

as her oil glands mature. So gentle face washing can be talked about

as well, with a gentle astringent. Controlling the oil is so important

for a pre teen, to avoid pimples and black heads and acne in the

years ahead. So allow her a little lip color and have her focus on her

natural beauty for another year. When she hits the doors of her HS

she'll want to look her best and she'll feel all eyes are upon her. So

she will want a dab of blush by then, and maybe some mascara on

her eyelash tips as well. Products tend to run high, so the least

amount she uses, the easier it will be on the wallet. That is some-

thing that even older women are aware of these days.

We are going through the same here.

Try just letting her wear a light color lip stick/gloss. Maybe a powder compact if she feels shiny. I'm not crazy about this one but it makes the kid happy and its barely noticeable.

Also let her keep her nails done. That's a girly thing that's also fun. She can get a mani/pedi for a treat which you can do together. We do light color or clear polish on the fingers and bright on the toes. Maybe even get her brows shaped once so she can see how its done.

Good luck with this. I hate it!

We made a deal that if she gets carried away and has a clown look (red checks, etc) that we'll lose the make up for awhile and she's been really good.

The other 6th grade girls seem to wear too much make up for my taste.

No, you are not being too conservative. THere are probably little girls in her school having sex as well-would you let her do that because they are?

Do not battle with her. Set the rules, and stick by them. Let her know that there is no room for discussion about the matter after you have set the rules.

You MIGHT consider letting her wear certain things. For instance, my 11 year old daughter is allowed to wear clear lip gloss, nail polish, and light perfume/body spray. She might think of that as a 'compromise'.

As a 30 year old woman, I VERY rarely wear makeup. It is bad for your skin.

Start with just mascara and lip gloss. If she is prone to breakouts, tell her she can use concealer or foundation. When she's in 8th grade let her wear a little eyeliner and natural looking eye shadows (but let hear wear colors for bar and baht mitzvahs), and in high school as long as her make-up isn't slutty looking, then let her wear whatever she wants.

Yes. Do you want your daughter to have a good relationship with you, to be able to come to you when she has a problem, to talk to you? Then you need to listen to her. Your job as a mother is to be there for her to teach her and to guide her. Wanting to wear makeup is very normal. Teach her how to apply it properly and use light shades. She doesn't have to look like a clown or prostitute to be beautiful and feel confident. Assure her of that and then take her shopping for her own small makeup kit; she'll be overjoyed and respect you for understanding her.

Maybe compromise with her and let her have one piece of make up for now until next year and then another. And help her pick out a color that is not to flashy.

continue your battle she 12 not 21 and u dnt know who to trust these days

join the club!! we compromised

she is allowed lipgloss and a very light eye shadow to start with and seems to be doing ok

you can barely see it yet she knows shes got it on

we cant keep them little forever :-(

the more u say no the bigger deal it is to her

who's the parent here?

You are.. say no!

You're the parent

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