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So, my TTC journey finally comes to an end...?

Well ladies, it looks like my TTC journey has finally come to an end.

My wonderful DH passed away the night of Sunday, March 8th, 2009. After nine month of TTC, I would love to believe that somehow, by some miracle I'll be pregnant right now. But, sadly, I'm sure I'm not. We have been together for 12 years and I don't forsee myself ever being able to love anyone else enough to start a family.

It's with great sadness I say goodbye to my fellow TTC'ers. You ladies have been wonderful to me and offerred more support than I could imagine. I really do wish you all the best of luck and any baby dust I may have had... may it be passed on to you all.

Just try not to get too consumed in your TTC efforts. Cherish your DH (or boyfriend, baby daddy... whatever) and always remember that tomorrow's not a guarantee.

Goodbye and good luck ladies!

Update:

Well, he had been diagnosed with epilepsy since he was a child. The autopsy is not back yet, but they think he had a small sezuire in his sleep, that caused him to bite on his tongue/mouth. He then choked on his spit/blood and stopped breathing. After a while of not breathing his heart had stopped beating. After a while without oxygen to his brain, his brain hemmoraghed. When they ambulance got there, they were able to bring him back (get his heart beating again), but he had already sufferred serious brain damage and was pretty much brain dead. A few hours later his heart stopped again and they again were able to bring him back, but more damage to the brain of course. The doctors then told me that he would most likely lose his heart beat again, his body was too weak to take anymore and they wouldn't be able to save him again. So, a few hours later his heart rate dropped and he was gone.

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  • SMA
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    I'm so deeply saddened by your posting. I too thought we had another bfp. I will be praying for both families. I worry about my son who has seizures regularly and to see your words breaks my heart. But have faith pray...pray for strength, guidance, and courage. From my family to yours our deepest sympathy. And may God be with you always.

    xo

  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    Its so depressing month after month... we've been ttc for 8-9 months now and had 2 m/c and my husband wants another baby so bad... i see that disapointment and it can also make me cry... im at wits ends, i dont know what to do anymore... i take all my vitamins and eat right and what annoys me most is that i fell pregnant with my daughter 2 years ago i was on Depo shots!! i never knew about the affects of antibiotics on depo... im considering giving that Fertilaid a go... i have a regular 29 day cycle, + OPK's and still nothing... i get upset because i see so many people pregnant at the moment or just had their babies and i get rather jealous =[ which isnt fair... they probably worked hard for it... My best friend, married for 5 years, ttc for 4 years, brought a house, paid for it, has a nursery ready but they have no luck either... it sucks.... it really really sucks Good luck to you ttc... baby dust xx

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I feel sick to stomach with sadness in reading your heartbreaking story,

    I am so so so immensley sory for your sad and heartbreaking loss, i cannot even begin to put it into words.

    If there is any slight chance or way that you could be pregnant, i prey to god that you are.

    I am honestly so sorry for you, even the thought of loosing my hubby doesnt bare thinking about and to know you are living through this breaks my heart.

    Cherish every memory and moment that you had together, feel angry he has been taken if you need to but also feel honoured to have had him, even if for such a short time, its better than none at all.i know right now this wont help you but in time i hope you can see this.

    My thoughts and deepest sympathy are with you right now.

    Love and hugs

    Kerry xxxxxxxxxx

  • LaLa
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    It's very hard to know what to say in times like this, but my heart goes out to you. I've been with my husband since I was a teenager and I couldn't imagine my life without him. Think about how lucky you were to have had him in your live and have loved him as you did. The memories will stay with you forever and I hope that there are many that will bring a gentle smile to your face when you think of him. Take care, sweetie. I wish you all the best and I hope that you are surrounded by a support network of people who care about you very much.

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  • I am so so sorry sweet! I'm in floods of tears reading that, all thoughts and prayers are with you! You are so right, all my problems seem so small and silly now, if its possible right now, keep your head up and you will get through this awful time. Think of nothing but the wonderful 12 years spent together. Im sorry xx

  • I did not know you but your story brings tears to my eyes. I am so sorry for your loss.

    I will keep you and your DH in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry I won't take your advice for granted that I need to cherish my DH b/c tomorrow's not a guarantee.

    YOU ARE IN MY PRAYERS HUN!!

  • Suze
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    I'm so very sorry for your loss. I don't know what else to say because there just aren't the words for things like this.

    You are in the thoughts and prayers of all your friends on here at the moment.

  • Im really sorry to hear that. But you know I am sure your husband wouldnt want you to never be able to have the family you both wanted so bad. Theres still options out there like ivf and all those out there. Iwish you the best and I know this is probably the last thing in your mind. emaill me if u need anything.

  • awwh darling, thats so sad good luck hunny fingers crossed a miracle might have happened sorry to hear about your husband thats so sad, look hunny im sure he would want you to be happy so not now but in the future maybe in a year or two if you see a guy remember that you can fall in love thats what your husband will have wanted then maybe you will have children, everything happens for a reason =] good luck for the future xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I'm so sorry to hear about your DH!!! What happened, if I may ask. You're so right though, we do get to tied up in TTC that we revolve our lives around it and not take time to really cherish our DH. I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. My prays are with you! xxxx

    EDIT: Oh hunny... I'm soo sorry to hear that! What an awful thing... I will keep you and your family in my prayers, and please know that all of us TTC'ers are here for you.

  • I am so sorry for your loss..You are in my thoughts and prayers...Reading your story made me tear up...it would be so hard to lose your love...I know your husband is in heaven looking down on you and comforting you...God will be here with you..If you need anything or anyone to talk too email me...god bless!

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