Anyone else tired of hearing this?

I can sympathize with you. When I was married to my first husband, I was told all of those things. We tried for 8 yrs. I absolutely hated hearing those words “It will happen, when it is supposed to happen”. “Just give it some time.” “Quit thinking about it, and it will happen.” I always felt like the next person who says that I am just going to scream. When people know that you are trying to have a baby, and have been unsuccessful for awhile, they are going to put there 2 cents in and make comments like that, whether we want to hear them or not. It is hurtful when all you want is a baby, and are trying and trying, and hoping that you are pregnant. All you want is someone to hold and cuddle, and to have a family of your own. It seems as though no one understands you, and all you want to do is cry. I also understand about the people who have kids that shouldn’t have kids, or don’t take care of them. I have thought the same things to myself. You are not alone, so don’t feel like you are. I wish you all the luck in the World. Lots of Positive Thoughts and Baby Dust to us all that are trying to get preggers!!

Well good luck to you! We haven't been trying that long and aren't quite that on top of tracking ect. at this point. We're still in the messing around see if it happens phase. However even if we are just messing around with it every month that I haven't been a little part of me is totally devistated. We have a 20 month old and I really want her to get a little bro/sis sooner rather then later. Then I keep getting these dreams about babies and breastfeeding (maybe its a sign!). ANd now my sister in law is about to have her baby and it makes me sick. She is such an irresponsible ungrateful person. She really wants a girl her 3 YO is a boy and this one is also. I really feel like she might just leave him behind at the hospital cause it's not what she wants. The other day we had tons of ice and snow and she feel flat on her belly and she's 6+ months along. My MIL had to FORCE her to go get checked by her Dr. and she still didn't go until the next day. I hate her for being able to have a baby that she doesn't truly want and deff. doesn't deserve. Because there are people out there like you who want/deserve to have a child and then she gets to have one. It seriosuly is so hard. And if my hubby tells me one more time "it's ok we're not serious about it yet it's gonna happen don't worry ect." I'm gonna pop him!

You are so not alone.

When I lost my baby, almost everyone said, oh, i bet you'll be pregnant again within 6 months. Just relax, when it's time, it'll happen etc.

So, here I am, 6 months later and not pregnant (took a test yesterday seeing how this cycle is now on day 50). I really thought this could be it this month. It sounds silly, but me, normally very unreligious, finally took the plunge to put my faith in god. I had even asked for a very very specific sign, if it was my month. I got my sign, but no BFP.

I'm ready to scream.

To make things even more lovely, the last of my 'friends' who was pregnant at the same time I was had her daughter last week. She's already bitching about lack of sleep, not being out with her friends etc. Not to mention her and her fiance are slobs who can't look after their other 2 kids, yet somehow have issues learning about birth control.

*sigh* I'm just bitter.

You are not alone. The next time I hear one of those statements, I am going to ask, "And how do you suggest I relax? What should I do since you are the expert." I wonder if that would make them shut up. My husband and I have been trying for two and a half years. I know that is less time than you, but I still hear those statements and it makes me want to slap somebody. On top of that, I am a teacher and I see all of these mistreated children born to undeserving parents. We actually have an appointment next week at a fertility clinic and I hope all goes well. Good luck and baby dust to you.

Trust me hunny!! You are NOT alone!! I have felt like this every single day of TTC.. Which has only been 6 months! I cant imagine 3 and a half years. You are stronger than I am. I don't have any advice for you, because I know how you feel. I'm not here to say "just relax" or "just stop trying so hard". I just can't believe how many women out there can just get pregnant so easy when they dont even want kids! There are tons of women who so despritly want a baby and would love one, yet can't... I'm sorry you have not been able to conceive already. I wish I knew something to say... If you need me, I'm here, just email me. Remember: You're not alone in this. xxxx

My husband and I are going through a very similar experience. I too got a BFN two days ago and I really thought that this was our month too. We've been trying for two years and I too get those feelings of anger toward all of the teenage mothers and such. My BEST friend, who knows that we're trying so hard for a baby, got pregnant and decided to get an abortion. That about killed me. How could she just throw away a baby like that. We even offered to adopt her baby, but she said "I don't want to have to be pregnant for 9 months and then give birth" how selfish is that?

Don't worry, I know how you feel. And though most people won't understand why we feel angry, or why we can't "just stop thinking about it", there are others out there who do understand.

Oh yeah. I heard that a LOT. And still see here people constantly posting 'Just stop thinking about it. Thinking about it will keep you from getting pregnant.' Just how 'thinking about it' kills sperm or keeps you from ovulating is a mystery I have never been able to solve.

Good luck.

(I did finally succeed, after 2 years of fertility treatments ... getting pregnant during the cycle when I was probably MOST stressed, because I'd decided that this was to be my last try!)

Girl... thank you!!

We are in the same boat together, so you are definetly NOT alone.

i agree that "it will happen when the time is right" is one of the worst things that can be said to a woman ttc!!!

my man and i have also been trying to conceive for the past 3 years and now that we are BOTH making a conscious effort to not smoke and drink and eating healthy and exercising daily, its like we wait month after month but to no avail...

finally we are gonna see a doctor, and hopefully this vicious cylce will end.

Girl, you are not alone because I am in the same boat people can always talk some are just trying to be helpful while others don't have a clue. We have been trying so long but I just don't want to give up I just keep praying and I KNOW that one day GOD will DELIVER ME so that our SUNSHINE will come.

Some days I just type some keywords on a search engine to read the stories of many many people struggling with the same issues as me, some with greater struggles than mine.

Here's a link.

http://www.twoweekwait.com/web/stories.php?categor...

Read the part about "What Nobody Told You About Trying to Conceive.."

It's so true but it made me smile... eventually.