Co-workers on B list for wedding?

Question

I'm planning a very small wedding for June of this year. We are trying to keep it mostly to family and very close friends. My problem is this. My co-workers know I"m getting married in June. I haven't sent out the invitations yet but I will be within the next week or so. I don't know if they expect to be invited. But because I'm trying to keep the guest list to under 60 people, I have to wait until I receive some responses before I figure out if I can invite my co-workers. How do I go about it so they wont know they are on the B list?

Update:

I forgot to mention my office is very small. Including the owner there are 4 others that work with me in the office. So its not like I'm expecting 100 more people. But if I invite my boss then he comes with his wife. It would would probably be 6 more people at most.

? · Accepted Answer

Unless it's someone who you really are close with, I doubt that co-workers would expect an invite.  And if they ask, just tell them the truth!  All you have to do is politely say, "I wish I could have invited you, but my partner and I are trying to keep the wedding small."

iloveweddings · Answer

Hi and congratulations!

The problem with having a "B list" is that those people WILL know that they are on the B list.  How?  Because proper etiquette says that most wedding invitations are sent approximately 6-8 weeks before the wedding.  If an invitation arrives any later than 6 weeks before the wedding (such as 3 weeks), then those guests will be able to figure it out.  

In any case, for only 6 additional people.....just invite them.  Chances are that you will probably get some that cannot attend from your original list.  And, even if everyone does attend...what is 6 more?

Also, even some that do RSVP "yes" end up not showing.

Danielle · Answer

well you have to decide if it's all or none. like can you invite some of your co workers without pissing others off?  if not and you have to invite them all, you have to wait until you've received enough responses from your A list to invite all your co workers.  you can't send 1 girl at work an invite and then the next week send 1 to someone else you work with.

Melissa F · Answer

I would just tell them that it is a small wedding with only family and close friends. It would probably be best not to invite any of them if you can't invite all of them just so no one will be hurt or upset. I wouldn't even consider having them on a "B" list - either invite them all now or not

misshammy · Answer

As long as you don't announce that you are mailing out your invites, you should be fine.. :)

Although, I am hearing horror stories of not receiving RSVP's back...

Just make sure that the invites are still sent out (if at all) to your co-workers in a timely fashion.

Anonymous · Answer

They will understand if you're keeping the wedding small (under 60 people).  If you have room, great.  If you don't have room, I'm pretty sure they won't be offended.

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