what to do when a so called good friend starts treating you very badly?

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this was at one time someone i would have called a best friend. i bent over backwards for. he also works with my husband. we bought countless meals and drinks for him while he worked. took food to his spouse when he wasnt feeling well his spouse is also male hes gay.
gave him bathroom breaks when he was working alone and needed to go very badly to the point of dancing in the store like a moron.

for the last 6 weeks he hasnt spoken to me and glares at me.  he talks to my husband as if nothing is wrong well he was until my husband turned him in last week for being late and no show no call. hes the store manager gotta lead by example.  im not sure what i did wrong 5-6 weeks ago to warrant this and he refuses to speak to me. hes acting like a lover scorned or scorned lover. the store is suffering and losing customers because of him. i have sent notes to him apologizing to no avail. he is rude mean and nasty to me now. what can i do to fix this when he wont speak to me. the company says personal issues should be handled outside the store

what else can i do besides showing up at his home to fix this mess
hes now trying to get my husband fired for any and everything since last week. my husband is one of the managers and has been cut to 8 hours a week yes a grievance on this issue has been filed

itsonlyalison · Accepted Answer

If you have tried to make contact with him to make whatever you have done wrong into right, then that is all you can do. Ball is in his court and if he won't reach out to make it better, then the friendship wasn't solid to begin with. He sounds like a selfish, immature, hateful person. Seems like you are better off without his "friendship," no?

Karma08 · Answer

Obviously this guy is a taker... meaning that he is willing and happy to soak up all of your generosity until he sucks you dry. It sounds like he wants to take advantage of your friendship by putting your husband in a bad spot as his manager.  That's really too bad.  

But at this point, I don't think you should go kiss his butt - why should you? He is the one in the wrong for god's sake.  

I would alert your husband's superiors so that they know what this guy is trying to do.  

Hopefully it'll backfire and your former friend will get fired - KARMA BABY!

Joyce C · Answer

You've done all you can physically and verbally do don't feel guilty you've done all you can do. The ball is in his court. He needs to man up. As my mother used to say give him a good old fashioned leaving alone. He'll come around and if he doesn't think of the money you.ll save.  Let hubby handle the work stuff that part is not youe business

James B · Answer

The people that pass thru our lives are like a big box of crayons.  Some grow on us to become our favorites, some we explore and put back in the box, and others, well they just don't work out.. Sounds like he needs to grow a bit more before he is mature.  

Time is too short in life, say "Goodbye"

Anonymous · Answer

If you say you've countlessly apologized to him for whatever he's pissed at and he still hasn't contacted you back and is offensively trying to fire your husband, I would just talk to the company themselves about him and his behavior.

They won't be able to tell you that you haven't tried to deal with your 'personal' issues because you HAVE by contacting him apologizing numerous times.

Now that this guy is trying to hurt your husband by getting him fired, this is offense within the COMPANY.

Good luck.

Yaya · Answer

Sometimes the Universe just comes along and sweeps the ol' Cosmic Broom thru our lives.

There is a lesson in all this about trusting people who haven't earned it.  Just don't lose the lesson....

Anonymous · Answer

well if you care and love about him so much then I don't understand why you're asking the question. You don't want him to lose his job, but you don't want him to treat you two like crap. You  need to fend for yourself - your husband only has 8 hours?! one day a week, or what? Don't you two need the hours/money?  He doesn't care about any of your predicaments and you should have some peace in your life.  Report him.

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