Is it ok if i change my engagement ring setting?

I think it's a very tough decision!!! There's nothing that says you have to get the matching wedding band, you could keep the engagement ring that you have since you really like it and you could chose another wedding band to go with it. I'm sure if you look around you could find one that fit well with it and not have to change the engagement ring at all, that way you don't risk hurting your fiances feelings and you're happy as well. My engagement ring was not what I would have choosen for myself, but my fiance was so proud about picking it out for me himself and spending his hard earned money on it, that I could never have told him it wasn't what I wanted, so I made it what I wanted with the right wedding bands that I chose, he wasn't hurt and we were both happy in the end.

If you do decide to change the ring I would be very gentle about it. I personally think I'd give a little white lie,(I know terrible right? But it would spare his feelings) and say something like you love the diamond but the setting rubs wrong on your finger and you want to know if it'd be ok with him if you got a more comfortable one, since you'll be wearing it the rest of your life!

as long as you're on the same page with your fiance and his feelings aren't hurt, go ahead. people change their settings all the time, mostly to upgrade and add stones after a number of years together. it doesn't make you shallow, it's not like you're asking for a bigger diamond, you just want a different setting. the diamond is worth tons more than the setting in the long run, the metal isn't the main point of the ring. that's why they say diamonds are forever, not white gold is forever! or platinum or whatever! you should get the setting and wedding band you like best and don't feel bad.

I think it is fine to pick out a different wedding band. I don't think you should start taking apart your engagement ring though. My husband and I went shopping together to find our bands so we both picked what we liked. Hopefully you will be wearing this ring "until death do you part". So I would make sure I was happy with the band.

Well, I think it is totally alright. Make sure your future husband doesn't have a problem with it. When my fiance and I went to look at wedding bands, I had a hard time finding a band that went well with my engagement ring. He ended up upgrading my solitaire to 1 carat and we found a band that went perfect. I think as long as you both agree, it shouldn't make a difference.

I think it is ok to change your engagement ring setting. I think it's great that you are keeping the diamond, and like everyone else is saying you are the one who is going to be wearing this the rest of your life. For me, I went to the jeweler with my boyfriend and picked out 5 settings that I liked, and from there he picked the one he liked most. It worked out because I got one that I liked, and he still surprised me :) Good luck and congrats!

Yikes! I'm sorry, his attack must come as a real blow. Give your fiance some time to calm down, then discuss with him. My concerns: 1. He is attacking you via email rather than having an adult conversation with you. - Is this a man even ready for marriage? 2. He changed his mind and is placing all the blame on you so he can feel better about himself. -Get to the bottom of what is going on here. Did someone say something? What changed? 3. This does not bode well for the future. I would fear this man and his immature outbursts. - Get counselling if you decide to continue with your plans.

Just don't get the band that goes with it. I had the same problem, i didn't like the band that matched the ring so i went out and bought one that i think looks good.

Talk to him about changing the setting, it doesn't sound like a problme to me. When my fiance gave me my ring, he told me multiple times if I don't like it we could change it. Or, is there a different wedding band you could get that you like? You do have options, talk to him and make sure he's okay with it. You should love your rings, you have to wear them forever, so I don't think you're in the wrong ( =

Good luck!

It's your ring, you will be wearing it 24/7 so you should get to choose, and your man should understand. Diamonds are forever...

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It is the ring YOU are wearing your entire life. Make him part of the process of changing it. Asking, "do you like how this will look?" That way he won't think you entirely hate it, but just want to tweak it a bit. Good luck!