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How to explain name change and absent father to new gf?

took my mom and stepdad's name in the last month, having at my changed. However, at 20 a lot of people would be surprised that I would do it considering that is something you normally do at a younger age. Anyways, My mom warned me this would be a conversation that I would have to have from now on, but I just don't know how to go about it or explain it. It isn't an unwillingness or denial thing.

I have always wanted to, but never had the money until I saved up enough from my tips from waiting tables at the Chili's I work at this past/current school year. I did it because I basically don't have anything linking me to my biological father's family other than the last name. They are all stuck up and prudes. My father himself is absent and never really was there for me as a kid. My stepdad basically stepped in very slowly and became my "dad" even more whenever I got in my later teens.

I was wanting advice though about how to explain this to a girl that I am out with and like about this to where it isn't telling your lifestory and not just "because I wanted to," in fear of seeming smug. I mean, it wasn't an act of wanting to divorce myself or whatever from my father. I honestly don't give a crap about him not being around anymore. I haven't talked to him in like 4 years. He has been out of my older brother's life and talked as if he was dead for the last 10 years; my bro is 8 years older than me. I just want to live my life and he isn't a good influence or parent. (Buying me alcohol/slipping me a drink at restaurants and stuff, would let me have girls over and let them stay the night whenever I wanted at his house, etc.) I did this for me not an act of getting back or anything like that.

I just don't know how or when it would be a good idea to explain what happened. I don't wanna come off as being dramatic or something like that.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Just say that you changed your last name to that of the man who is your father in all the ways that count. Your biological father lost his rites to being your father by walking out on you. Lucky for you, your mom found a wonderful guy who gladly picked up that role as father for you. Your step-dad has become the guy who has rightfully won the rite to be your dad in heart as well as name.

  • 4 years ago

    basically tell him, "on the grounds which you have been absent for the previous 2 years, i've got taken it upon myself to alter our sons final call to____. sooner or later, please consult with him by using his perfect finished call." He would not desire the different clarification than that. This guy would be in reformatory for an prolonged time so it incredibly is unlike he's going to step up and suddenly exchange right into a father. You had each suitable to alter his final call. i be attentive to you may positioned an upload in the paper for various weeks affirming that your sons final call is changing so he has a raffle to step up and petition it. He needless to say did no longer do this, so which you observed each and all of the guidelines.

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