Laides-How and WHEN to explain to new gf about past name change?

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I have been wondering how I will explain my name change to the next gf I have. I pretty much have my answer in my mind-I did it because I wanted the same last name as my mom and stepdad. My biological father has been absent for most of my life since age 10 and I want my future family to have the same last name as my mom and stepdad . I am wondering though because it will come up considering my birth name is on my hs diploma and bachelor's degree from college. I would think the first time she saw that on the wall she would be thrown off by it. I changed my middle and last name recently at the age of 23. How and when to bring it up? I don't wanna seem dramatic or something like that. Should I just wait until she sees the diplomas/degrees in my apartment before saying anything or should I just put it out there. Ladies, do you think it would be romantic or sweet to hear a guy tell you something like this or would it weird you out in a way?

Megan · Accepted Answer

if i were in her shoes i would like to hear it from my boyfriend... because then it might seem or look like you are trying to hide something from her... and i mean i think you guys asa couple can build more of a trusting relationship and become stronger witch is a good thing. and it is not wierd at all... it is very sweet.. and again if i were in her shoes i would appreiciate it... 

hope this helps! good luck!

bailem · Answer

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um no · Answer

i think you should just straight up tell her. be like i need to tell you something so that there is no confusion and go for it, it really shouldn't be traumatic for her if you tell her and you dont make a big deal out of it. even if you were taking her to see ur mom one day you could be like; well u no i didn't always have my moms last name, blah blah blah, more of an interesting fact than something she would be upset about. 
if u paly it right she'll think its cool, even sweet of you to do that for you mom :)
good luck

clueless1234 · Answer

It really depends on the girl. I'm pretty laid-back on everything and think nothing really big on it.. maybe just clarify the last name of your parents with your current last name... so, I know for sure you're not some homicidal maniac.

tequila_girl98 · Answer

I think it's sweet -- but I would check with your schools to see if you can get updated diplomas since it will affect your future job applications.

Michigan · Answer

I'd be like "aaw. he trusts me enough to share this with me." It isn't such a big thing though. Feel free to tell any girl whenever you're comfortable. It's not like you were a woman before or anything like that.

Kristina · Answer

its not weird or romantic...its just a fact. bring it up in casual conversation. she probably wont even be that interested haha. seriously no offence.

hannah · Answer

Just tell her "btw...blah blah blah" its not a big deal

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