what would u do if u where still in love with the father of your first child but u havent seen him for 25 year?

I think that you are reminicing about the wrong memories. It seems like you are not angry with him or hold him accountable for his actions. IMO, it's so easy to remember the good times because in our nature we try to be positive, but it's really the opposite becuase if we remembert the negative than maybe history wouldn't repeat that cycle, that I know that I have been on in my past. 25 years is a long time and I don't know what to say about both of you holding onto this "love" that has kept him from lifting a finger for a child that you both created. Maybe you love him but only you can ask yourself why and what you want to do about it. Sometimes it's the memories that you love and not so much the actual person, but that's when reality kicks in and you see things for what it really is. Good luck and happiness!

Well, honestly... I'm not sure if I could love someone who abandoned me and my child. How can you forgive that person of missing out in their child's life and leaving you to pick up the pieces? If this is about unresolved issues and you need closure, I completely understand but for your sake- don't fall for him and potentially put yourself through another painful break-up. Although sometimes, life makes you have to move on...

He has done nothing for your child and has not been in touch with you for 25 years because he just does not care. Don't fool yourself into thinking otherwise. He would not "put up with" the other woman for 25 years just to spite you. Sorry.

If he is with someone else, it's his choice. He doesn't have to stay with her.

When a man strays, it's not the other woman's fault... it is again, his choice. She didn't duct tape him up and kidnap him.. i'm sure he went of his own accord.

If i thought i was still in love with someone after twenty-five years of not seeing him, i'd see a therapist. Being obsessed with someone we've not seen in 25 years, isn't normal.

Honey, the only reason you think you are still in love with him is because you haven't seen him in 25 years. There are reasons why you didn't take him back then.

your feelings will always be there for each other as you both have a child with each other.

At the end of the day you have both moved on if you were meant to be together then you would have been together a long time ago and you would have never been apart.

I would remind myself that I would be an idiot to consider this guy anything more then a one time sperm donor.

You are in love with the idea of him you have formed in your head, the real "Him" you don't know.

I would Get a life!!!!!!!!!!!!