My 11 year old grand daughter is stealing money from my wallet.?

You are right to hide your money. I have an 11-year old granddaughter, and there is so much peer pressure put on kids to wear the "right" clothes and have their hair and nails the right way. We have had to tell her no to many things, but she seems to take it in stride. When our daughter was 13, I saw her take money from my wallet. I waited until she came out of my room, and asked what she had been doing. She said she was looking to see if I had a dollar bill for four quarters. I went in to check my wallet, and she had taken out a five. I didn't get mad, but I said, as calmly as I could, "You have taken more than five dollars from me, but the easiest part to handle for me, is the money. The fact that you took my trust for you away kills me. It will take time for you to pay that back." The next day the five was back in my wallet, which was still sitting out. Clipped to it was a note that said "Five dollars doesn't mean very much to me now. I'm sorry." I believe I can trust her with my life now.

You have to do everything humanly possible to protect your things. Kids are quick to think that grandmoms are loaded and will always come through with money. You and your daughter have to make sure this child learns that what she might have done is very wrong. Maybe your 11-year old is telling the truth. I pray that's so. But I really think you have been put to the test, and you are passing with flying colors.

You are right to confront her about this right now and get to the bottom of it asap. I am an elementary school counselor and we deal with about 3 or 4 cases of this each year. This year and last year we had two different little girls show up to school with $400 cash right about the time their parents' rent was due. The first parent was able to come up to the school and get the money back. Unfortunately, with the second child it was 4 $100 bills and the parent only got three back.

Your grandaughter needs some very serious consequences now so she realizes how serious this really is. You may want to even let the teacher know what is going on in case things have been disappearing at school.

Try and contact your school district's police officer and have them come make a house visit or pull her from her classroom to have an intimidating talk with her about stealing.

Edit: I see many people advising you to hide your money. This is not a solution to the problem at all. This is avoiding the situation.

11 year grand daughter stealing money wallet

You spelt 'dilemma' wrong. I'm sure she had more than a buck fifty. Pay all the money you borrowed back. My mom used to borrow cash from me all the time, because she never had small change. I don't know why you don't work. You should go get a job, seriously. It isn't even remotely funny that you have to take money from your daughter when you don't have a job. Where are you driving to? The mall? You shouldn't be driving anywhere but to job interviews or work if you have to steal money from your young daughter.

Definitely keep your belongings safe and see what happens. You shouldn't continue allowing her access to your wallet. Both you and your daughter should keep your wallets and purses put in a place she doesn't have access to and talk to her about the consequences of stealing and the importance of being honest.

Tell her you now keep a written list of your money and it's serial numbers and if any more money is missing she will be punished...I would take away everything she owns and make her stay in her bedroom for 2 days ...Then explain to her how stealing now can lead to stealing larger items later on and she will end up in prison..You and your daughter need to be very firm and the punishment needs to be harsh so she understands you won't let her get away with it..I would also tell her if she steals from either of you again you will inform all your friends and her friends of her new life choice..

Your right she is taking it. I know that that can't be easy for you but just remember she is young and probably doesn't think too much about doing it. She probably see's her friends having money and her not having any to buy the things she wants is hard. I would try to start like a chore system like if you wash the dishes or take the trash out or vacuum the house I'll pay you 5 or whatever you feel like being generous and giving that way maybe she wont feel the need to steal it.

Many kids try this on. And surprisingly the thing to do is not to make too big a deal out of it. But now is the time to nip it in the bud, while she is young.

Just tell her you are not sure who is stealing it, so to investigate further you have called the police and they are coming to investigate.

This should stop her. It did my young daughter who also started producing mysterious amounts of money!

Well, she's 11. She's in that stage right now where she feels she can rebel. She could be bored. I used to do the same thing at that age and it was because I didn't have anything to work towards. No goals for my home-life.

My family quickly realized this and started paying me for chores and good grades. After saving 32 dollars, that I myself worked hard to save for new clothes for the new school year, it was missing.

My family had stolen it. I then realized how awful it felt to steal someone else's hard earned money. It doesn't feel good.

Maybe she should learn what it feels like. Set her down and let her know how sad it makes you. Then work up a plan for her to get paid for babysitting, washing the car, good grades, etc.

Good luck!

ok before you do anything to advanced make sure its her whos stealing it but for now keep your wallet with you all times and when you go to bed hide it somewhere that no one knows except you

i hope u get to the bottom of it

best wishes

-christina