I need some relationship advice?

Thats a tough one... I say tell him how you feel, you guys have been through enough for him to be understanding and see where your coming from. If he really wanted you back, there would be no holding back, just cause it's been two years and he feels all cozy again doesn't mean he gets his big baby way, I agree it's time for some commitment. Give him the ultimatum. "i'm tired of you blowing off the subject of marriage, I got back with you thinking we'd be fully committed and happily ever after and I am happy but I need that next step and if you cant commit then I guess we're going back to square one again and we'll breakup." If you need that, you need that. Tell him. ULTIMATUM! And stick to it. Men don't respond to babying and letting them be stuck in their ways. He needs to own up to his responsibility, his kids, and you.

its very sad to read your story. when the time that you decided to get divorce you know already the differences between the two of you. i don't want to say that accepting him again is another wrong decision coz i am not in the position. but as your story goes if i am the one who is wearing your shoes i don't let go to stay your ex for the sake of others feeling. i know time comes that your children understand you why you have to leave your ex. pleasing others feeling is very tiring,. what is your assurance that you don't get even tired with him. you know what to have a good relationship is 3c which is Christ, commitment and communication. so how can you communicate well if you don't have commitment? and how can you put Christ center of your relationship if you don't have commitment at all. just try to search your soul and consider all things with him specially those bad times. measure your self if it is considerable to stay behind those things. good luck!

Believe it or not my Mom's going through something similar, from her experience the only advice i can give is to take a step back, don't think about happiness of the moment. Are his actions going to make your life miserable in the end?

i think...if you already have kids, its better for you to get married with him,because the one that will hurt most from your complicated and no commitment relationship is your children...

but if he refuse to have a commitment, then something goes wrong!

now ask this question to your self...are you happy now?are you really happy with every thing that goes this way?if you alright,then its ok for you to stay with him...but...if you hurt...(and i think that the reasons you write this question)...why you have to stay?

for the sake of your children?

well...now looks clearly, are your children really happy if their parents have this kind of relationship?

i'm sorry...its not like i'm trying to corner you...

but i think a man like him doesn't worth you...

you have to be strong,

for the sake of your children too...

You two need to talk about it because he asked you to came back to him and get remarried to grew up your kids, to be a family, to build up your dreams together.

**** I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH MILDRED***

You are stupid to re- enter a failed marriage,What do you think will happen this time?You are in love with your history with him& not him!Don't put your children through your stupidity,think about it!

Tell him to commit or go.

if he likes then he shoulda put a ring on. if he likes it then he shoulda put a ring on it.. ohuhohuhohhohouhohuohoh