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How can I convince my wife to talk to me and to come home?
My wife and I have been together for almost 10 years or so and we have never had a fight bad enough that we ever broke up; until last week! We dont have a physically abusive relationship, HOWEVER, i KNOW that verbal abuse is JUST AS BAD! We are both so angry with one another because of stress and because of bills and just LIFE! She left and moved out with ALL of her belongings to her parents house. They then took both of our cars and are in full support of her leaving me....I AM HAPPY THAT SHE HAS THE SUPPORT OF HER FAMILY. I just dont get it because she HATES them! For being so PHYSICALLY abusive to her and her brother. I would die for her and I am just so torn as to how to get her to talk with me.
She says that she will speak to me when SHE is ready and REFUSES to give me a time line in regards to even speaking. I LOVE HER SO MUCH, but I am so disappointed. She said she left because I told her to do so and that I didnt fight for her when she was leaving because she wanted her space. and now that I have given her some time to sit on it and think...NOTHING! Everyone says tell her goodbye and move on, BUT I LOVE HER!
I want her to talk with me, that has been the NUMBER 1 problem that she doesnt communicate and I am a LOUD and deal with it now type of guy. SHE IS THE YING TO MY YANG! I am so torn i want to die, my best friend, soul mate, MY HEART left me! HELP! We married to be TOGETHER.....FOREVER!?
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- Dark_angelLv 41 decade agoFavorite Answer
That's really sad . Don't worry about it . Everything will be fine . Call her or leave her few cards saying that you are sorry . I can understand she's totally pissed off but in marriage everybody has bad / good times . Just be patient and wait till she forgive you . But I would try to call her and send her cards saying sorry . Good luck on it . Wish you get her back soon :)
- Anonymous1 decade ago
You cannot make her want to be back with you. There are arguments and then there are those arguments that you wish you could take back. You need to stop being the one who is trying to make it work by yourself. Maybe if you relax and give her the time she wants things will change. Even if it doesn't you need to slowly try to get some normalcy back in your life. Tell her that you have done everything you can and you love her and want her back, but you are not going to keep being the only one who is trying in the relationship. Because as we all know both people need to put forth 50% into a relationship to make it 100%.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Her family is trying to control her. Just sit back and think of any time you guys had a disagreement, was her parents there too?
Then, try and call her, send her cards just to let her know that you are thinking of her. Then call and leave a message if she doesn't pick up and say " leaving me is not the answer, when you are ready to work this out, I'm here"
As for her parents, call them too, they need to hear your side. While your speaking to them, say you love and care for her as many times as you can.
Also, never ever bring up past family issues when you are having a disagreement (Woman hate that)
Good Luck
Source(s): Some one who has been there and back again. - CindyLuLv 71 decade ago
Sounds like she has a different idea. You cannot make her come back if she does not want to do so. You should give her a deadline to at least talk to you about this. IF she will not agree then you must accpet that and move on. I know it is hard to loose the love of your life. She just left you, my darling died. If I can survive that you can get on with your life too. Good Luck
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
My guess is that even tho she doesn't want to talk to you she also doesn't want you to back off completely. She probably wants to feel like you're fighting for her. This gets tricky tho because if you go around to much you won't be giving her a chance to miss you but if you don't go around enough she won't feel like you miss her.
If you send her things or leave messages make sure they are sent to a place where her family can't intercept them and stop them from ever getting to her. They don't sound like they are trust-worthy.
If you really love her you have to try to make it work. That way if it doesn't you'll know that you did everything you could. It sure would be crazy for a marriage of 10 yrs to go down because of one fight but it does happen.
