Is this normal? Anyone else like this?

I used to hate giving oral sex with my ex and never understood why people done it. I then realised with my current boyfriend that its really not bad.

I think it depends on the man your doing it with and have come to the conclusion that as my ex was putting a lot of pressure on me to do it and being very rough with it and just expecting it as a part of sex put me off. My current boyfriend is loving, gentle, puts no pressure on and this makes me want to please him and i can actually enjoy it.

It is possibly like this with you and down to experiences you've had, but everyone has different sexual preferences just do what your comfortable with for now and go with that.

Cant blame you there, kind of hard to be interested in something that you don't enjoy. And your not alone in that, more women then not have the same problems. Honestly, sex is better the older you get, and you may just need something to help. Being with someone you love, really helps, and using toys can help. Nothing strange, just a small personal massager can make a world of difference in your sexual experience.

And Im right there with you on the oral sex thing, my husband knew that when he married me. It isn't that I don't do it, but its not often and only after he has showered and all that.

It's easier when you really love someone--then there is no limit to how you might want to express that love, physically. If you aren't thrilled with sex much maybe it's because there's little to no actual love involved with it, and as far as "normal" goes, there's nothing wrong with feeling that way at all.

Most people think you ought to enjoy sex no matter what the situation if you're young and healthy--but that's not always the case. So don't beat yourself up--just be picky, continue to do only what YOU are comfortable doing, and when that real love finally hits you, I'll bet you have no trouble at all doing whatever you and your partner agree on.

This is going to sound mean, but here is what I think about it.

If you don't enjoy sex at all, you shouldn't be dating guys who will find it important. What this means is that you have to disclose rather early on. That may seem harsh, but it's actually very unfair to enter into a relationship with someone who expects something you can't provide. Sex is an important part of many relationships and people who have vastly differing sex drives just shouldn't be together - again, harsh, but true.

There's a growing movement of people out there who label themselves asexual - because while they are interesting in dating and finding a partner, they don't have an interest in sex. That sounds like it describes you pretty well. Especially if you live in a large city, you should see if there are any asexual groups you could go and talk to. But don't keep dating guys and having sex with them just because they want to. They can tell that you're not into it.

Well Jen, I see it this way. Sure, sex is very much about pleasing one's partner. But the flipside of that notion is that a loving and caring partner doesn't want the other participant (kind of a clinical name for it, wouldn't you say?) doing something they hate.

The whole point of sex is an expression of love and feeling in a physically mutually-satisfying way. If going down is something that makes you physically sick, that doesn't sound like something that has a place in your physical relationships.

John Jones, M.D.

After you give oral a few times it stats to get better and you feel different about doing it.

I think that such things are for marriage or at least a committed relationship. Don't do anything you don't wish to do.

oral sex does that to me to it's like puting somebody eles's pee in your mouth

A guy my age (when I was younger (I'm 12 now

)) made me, and YUCK!!! I'm just not going to until I'm in a commited relationship.

yeh. you just dont want to do something that you wont feel comfortable with.

but you shouldnt let any force you to do it whether its your boyfriend or husband.