So I have a couple situations with my friends (not drama I swear)?

Your first friend is developing a severe case of anorexia. I had that when I was 14 to 17. It is very dangerous. She is depleting her body of every nutrient and still trying to maintain a full schedule. She is also working out to burn of extra calories. This disease stems from a self hatred and lack of control in the person's life. It has nothing to do with food. Try talking to her about what she dislikes about herself and try to make her feel good about herself. And try to point out ways she has control in her life and try to invent new ways for her to gain some control in her life. Anorexia is so deadly because the body begins to feed upon itself, it's own muscles and organs. It happens over a long period of time and sometimes, as in the case of Karen Carpenter, she had already started eating again and gaining weight but the damage done to her heart was already irreversible.

You need to get your second friend into some kind of anonymous abuse support group. Call info line, 211, and they will tell you what is out there to help her. Tell her family and keep after her, she will thank you someday!

Oh good god! Geez, that's awful to hear. I will do my best to try and help you, but these are both very tricky situations, the second in particular.

Friend #1

Well, for the first friend, I think you should do some investigating. When you next go to her place, have a look at what's in her kitchen- her fridge in particular. Make a mental note of what's there (do this VERY carefully- you may want to write this down when possible) .

Then go back there a few days later, and have another look in the kitchen, seeing what's changed. Based on the changes, you can see what she's eaten, and based on the length of time, whether that's enough. You should repeat this a few weeks later to be sure.

If after your investigation you do draw the conclusion that she has an eating disorder, call someone (I don't know who I'm afraid, should be easy to look up). She'll be really pissed off at you, but an eating disorder is a disease of the mind, and she will need help SOON, before she ends up getting seriously hurt. She will hate your for now, but thank you when she's been cured.

Friend #2

Much more tricky. You just need to have another serious chat with her. Also, look on the interent about people suffering abuse, as your friend will probably be in a very similar mindset to them, so their solutions might work on her. Worth a try.

Good luck! I'm so sorry to hear about your friends. You're a really good friend though!!!

It sounds like the girl with the eating disorder is anorexic. Sounds like she has a fear of gaining weight. Wow, think of how much weight I'd lose if I had that same attitude, but I eat extra and gain.

Anyway---about the one who has an abusive boy friend, that is so bad, and I can tell you what I would do---talk to a counselor (professional) such as a spirit-filled pastor (Full Gospel---they are the ones with the anointing), and get his advice on this, and then try (after praying with him) to get her to talk to him also, if he is a very interested caring person---not someone who has too many other things on his mind to get involved. But this is what is the best, because this way you get God involved. You and the pastor can pray together for her and come to the best solutions. The only way it won't work is if you or her don't co-operate with him. God bless you.

tell her parents or ring an advice line or talk to her confront her about this and get some other guy yo beat they other guy up and see how he likes it

good luck hope this helps stay strong xx