My grandmother passed away 2 days before my wedding?

I'm so sorry.

My grandmother died less than a year before my wedding. At the wedding, we set up a table with photos of loved ones that we wished could have been there. I'd advise setting up some photos of your grandmother on a table outside the hall or near the entrance. This lets your grandmother be at the wedding in spirit, and will be good for all of your family members, and remind all of you how much the family loved her. But it won't be too maudlin.

Carry on with the wedding. Let your mother skip the reception for the funeral. Make sure your dad goes with her -- even if they object. She needs him right now. If anyone outside of the family asks, just say that there was family business that they had to attend to. They won't pry -- they'll assume it's tedious business having to do with organizing the wedding.

Remember that your grandmother would want what is best for you, even if you didn't know her well.

Condolences and congratulations.

I'm so sorry for you loss. This is a very difficult situation. I know that you're upset that your mom won't be there for the reception, but think about how she's feeling now. She wants to be there for both... you can't ask her to not go to her own mother's funeral. It seems like she's worked out a way to go to both. Just be happy that she'll be able to be there for the ceremony.

Don't feel bad for going on with the wedding. Terrible things like this can happen to anyone. Completely cancelling a wedding 2 days before is very major and lots of money would be lost, as well as time spent trying to let guests know and reschedule. Maybe you could make an announcement at the reception... something about how there has been a loss recently in your family, and even though it's the happiest day of your lives, there is a heaviness in your hearts. People will understand why your mother couldn't stay for the reception.

Oh, I'm so sorry. How sad for all of you.

Have the wedding as planned. Your grandmother would want it that way and I'm sure she'll be there in spirit, even if you weren't close to her.

Please ask your mother to stay for the reception. There is nothing more she can do for your grandmother and there are usually no funerals on weekends. She can leave early Sunday with your dad. She will regret missing your reception big time in the future once her head is clear. Your family in the other state will understand. Just say to her...Mom, its important to me that you be there for me. I need you here with me. Or better yet, show her the answers. Don't even think of postponing the wedding, you'd lose every penny you've put down.

Grandma is in a good place, remember her in the ceremony in some manner.

My aunt passed away three days before my wedding and I went through the same dilema. I feel for you.

My sister passed away right before her daughters 13th birthday party, a party she had planned. We had the party for my niece after the funeral. It was bittersweet, but it was what she would have wanted. Sometimes life sucks, but life goes on...

Best of luck, honey, you are in my prayers.

I think it's natural to be bummed that your mother won't stay through your wedding reception. I also think it's natural for her to feel she needs to be where her mother passed away. It's an awkward situation. Honestly, it's too bad she and the other family members can't stay for the wedding and then go down -- it's only a different of a few hours. On the other hand, when is the funeral? Are there other relatives in TX she needs to be with or comfort? If so, then you'll have to accept that sometimes, the death of a loved one does come first. You should certainly go ahead with your wedding as you wish, and hope that some of your friends and other guests can help bolster your mood.

Anyone who inquires about your mother's absence should be simply told she had to leave for a family emergency and was sorry to miss out on the reception.

I am sorry for the loss of your Grandmother. You need to go on and have your wedding. But ask you mom if she could stay for just a little while longer. So you can have pictures made and have her there when you have the daughter/father dance. Tell your soon to be husband that you need to have that dance first. So both of them can go ( that way your dad will be with your mom). Then let your wedding party know that your parents are leaving to go out of town because your grandmother has passed away. That way she is there for some of reception. Hope this will help you some.

Absolutely. My mom died when I was 11, so 11 years ago this month, and my brother passed away 4 years ago. It is gut-wrenching at times thinking that they will not be there on the most important day of my life. I know they'll be there in spirit, but it's just not the same. My wedding is in less than 3 weeks...To help resolve these feelings, I am going to go to their gravesites this weekend with my fiance. That way I can cry, vent, etc., as well as feel like my fiance will get to connect to their memory (he knew my brother but not my mom). Maybe doing the same thing would help you...It's hard, but time really does heal...Best of luck.

is there any way she can stay until the end of the reception. there must be some important reason she needs to rush away.

you have every right to ask her to stay a few more hours until your reception is over. the reason i imagine is that she will ride with the others and they dont want to drive in the middle of the night. could they leave early the next day? or will they then miss the funeral?

dont feel bad, you are entitled to your feelings about this. there is nothing more she can do for her own mom right now, and, as you said, they were distant.

i hope you can calmly ask her to be happy for you and to stay for your whole wedding, and, that you communicate that you need her with you. in her state she may have overlooked this fact. your calmness and clear words can help her realize better what the right thing to do is.

you are not selfish. you have the right to a happy wedding.

This is her mother, let her go to the funeral. It stinks, but poop happens. She is dead, there won't e another funeral, and your mom may really regret not saying goodbye.

However, it is fine to be upset about it. YOu can't control your emotions, just try not to make your mom feel bad about it. Vent to someone outside of the situation.

It is fine to still have the wedding, you were not close to her and I am assuming you would lose a ton of money to try and move it.

Try and relax, go for a walk, take a bath, whatever you need. Things will work out in the end!

I am so so so sorry. My grandmother died in June and we are getting Married in a month so it will be really close to the one year anniversary. It is so hard to deal with this all. I would say sit down with your mom and tell her what you told us. That you don't want to sound or appear selfish and you are upset and these are your concerns. It is a hard time for the whole family.

Have your wedding. Your mother will be there for the ceremony. This was your mother's mother so show some respect and plus your father will be there with you.

EDIT - don't be angry with yourself. Your grandmother would want you to continue on with your wedding as well as your parents. Everyone understands that this is a special day for you and the most wonderful thing about (some) grandparents is that they want to see their grandchildren be happy and to shine.