How much input should a husband have in home decoration?

very Little or none.Just remember that a man should fix things around the house and you decorate it.

I know that im gonna get alot of thumbs down for this but I dont care.

What logical reason do you have for the wife's opinion counting more than the husbands? That's not cool. It's his home too, and there should be a 50/50 agreement on the big stuff such as paint colors, furniture, bedding and stuff like that. Think about it - how would you feel if he demanded control over the entire decor of your home, and picked out stuff you hated? I'm sure you hate camoflage, diamond plate, grease stains and chrome and much as he hates pink flowery stuff, lighthouses or whatever other feminine thing you like, so it's just best all around to pick out things for your home together.

Honestly, the women's opinion! I think you should openly take suggestions from your hubby, but in the end, I feel women know best about these things. Unless, your hubby has a real flair for home decor, then the women should be the one organizing most of it. Although, don't go making your house ultra-girlie, that's not fair to your husband.

Growing up, my mom made all the home decor decisions and my dad's domain was the lawn/landscaping. So, maybe you can compromise and he has this "space" to make the final decisions. I know a lot of men also have their "man rooms", places like the garage, a den or a basement. I know many wives allow their husbands to decorate that space more to their liking.

I agree with your BF. My husband and I just built a house this past year (and got married) and we did that without arguments. How? Because we both understand that nobody's opinions are more important that anyone else's--at least not between the 2 of us. You have to figure out what works fro you as a couple, but he surely should have a say in the appearance of his home.

Like if we needed paint, I would go out and pick a few colors I liked, we would talk about the choices, and we'd pick something from among those--that way, whatever he picks, I know I'll already like, and he doesn't have to spend the time doing all the background stuff...were both happy with that.

A husband will live in the home too, and he should like the way it's set up and decorated. I would never paint my house a color that my husband didn't like. I would keep looking till we both agreed on something. That goes for any other household items, decorations etc. I made sure that the bedspread I bought recently was something my husband liked. I just would feel weird having furniture, paint colors or anything else like that to be something he didn't like.

If you want an equal, and honest relationship - you must give him the same rights, which you claim yourself. If you don't compromise here - you're opening up a free passage for him to make a decision, completely selfishly and not respect your input.

How would you feel if he bought a new car that was ridiculous in cost, and inappropriate for the family dynamic? Can he just say "Oh this is a car thing - I get to make all the decisions. When it comes to the house paint - that's your area of expertise."

Careful what you wish for !

Your boyfriend is right it will be his place too and while the wife generally has last say no guy wants to live in a pink pouffy princess palace. Im not saying you need to incorporate stuffed animal heads into your decor but you must consider his wishes and ideas...if you want to live in peace and harmony. This is a basic compromise because two people have to look at the decor day in and day out and while it is ok if it is not up to the standards of your dreams no one should have to live in a place they hate to look at. It might keep him home more if he likes how it looks. The converse is also true

Why are you even getting married if you think the woman gets the final say in everything? Is the guy there just for the scenery? That's what it sounds like. The guy lives there too and it should be his decision as well. I would hope he runs fast since you seem so intent on dictating everything he does, says and thinks. Your boyfriend is correct that it is a joint decision. If you can't respect that, then you need to find someone else who likes to be controlled.

Um HOW MANY people's home is it...just yours? Isn't it the husband's too?

We live in a detached condo/cottage style home.

My hubby & I compromised....the kitchen is totally mine, we agreed on the living room, bathroom & bedroom....the second bedroom will be totally mine when vacated as we are turning it into a guest room, ditto as far as the guest bathroom. And since I'm the one caring for it, the front porch & huge back deck are mine.....he's not an outside person while I love to garden and eat al fresco....he does love what I've done with both spaces......

We agreed on colors neither could live with ( pink & purple-him, and orange-me) We both love earthy brown tones, sage greens and gray-blues, and splashes of red. White woodwork/trim and black accents. And even tho I had free reign with the kitchen and both outside spaces, I asked for his input...and seriously considered it. We agreed on and bought major items together (except for the antique pieces I already owned-he loves them as much as I do)

End result-we are BOTH happy with our mutual living space.

So sorry, I agree with your guy.

I think your b.f is right..

Men may not know very much about colors and textures, but they know what works and where things need to be. They also have a desire to make things, contribute to things and be proud of things.

If he cant' help you make it or do something with it, it's basicaly useless to him.

I believe they have just as much say as we do, My goal as a wife is to make sure our home is comfortable and inviting for my family, and that means making sure my husband is alright with the basket being on top of the toilet tank. If he's not happy, I usually find other alternatives to live with. In life, there are worse things than my home not being the perfect color or my pillows not matching.

My husband has the final say in what goes in our home for the simple fact that he makes the money, he gets to decide what it gets spent on.

We both have very similar tastes in things, and we both listen to eachother's imput on things. We don't ever go shopping for things for the home without the other one around, for the shear fact that if either of us don't like it, it's going back.

We first think of priority. Yes, having a nicely decorated home is ideal, but it's not always practical and affordable.

We first think of what we can make or do together, to make our home more appealing and comfortable to be in. We always dicuss, and only spend money on what's needed. The stuff we decorate with has only one rule, It has to represent something about us.

Anyone can pick out lamps, coffee tables and pillows, our home however, is a direct reflection of ourselves, and we don't put anything in it unless it means something.

We do have discrepencies though..

I remember I HATED out kitchen table. It was big, long, rectangular and I couldn't stop bumping into it. It was expensive when we bought it, it had matching chairs and it was still in good condition.. we figured, if we waited until it warmed up enough to work in the garage, we could make one, but it's really not needed, it's just wanted.

I pleaded with him for us to get a new one, but we didn't have the money, plain and simple.

Months went by, I bumped my hips and pelvis many times, grit my teeth over how stupidly big this table was.. had some great family get togethers over it..

Then one weekend,We happen to be at IKEA picking something else up, and noticed this table top in the corner, marked down to 30$.

It was gorgeous, wood, perfect size and ROUND!

We spotted it at the same time, and our telepathy kicked in.We bought that, and a few supplies from the hardware store ( including a huge wooden fence post we sanded into a pedastal) and made our own table!!! It's gorgeous, Everyone asks where we got it, and we proudly say WE made it.

Having your home decorated is an expression of the people who live in it. It's not supposed to look like a magazine cover. It's supposed to filled with things that make up who you are.

Our living room has a huge collage frame of our trip to P.E.I, with a huge glass bowl sitting center on our homemade coffee table of all the rocks and seashells our daughter picked up while there. Our home is gorgeous, comfortable, and it expresses just who we are. Everyone loves it, and the peices they love were all home made or found!

So yes, I say, your husband has just as much say as to what goes into the home :)