I usually have such a way with words, but what do you do when you feel like you are losing trust for your mate?

Well if you're me you definitely should stop comparing men to all the ones on the Lifetime Movie network, but that's just me.

I think when you get a night off and you can get a friend to watch the kids or arrange someone to take them out somewhere you should surprise him with his favorite meal and wear some sexy lingerie afterwards! During this romantic event you should let him know how much you care about him and bring up the fact that you've been worried he may be drifting and you would never want to see that happen. Communication and expressiveness is key to all relationships and sometimes the day to day boring routine makes some of our minds start to wander. Try to prevent the wandering by spicing things up every now and then.

You really need to talk with him. Trust is a very important part of a relationship, without it, the relationship will fail. And as far as you thinking about it, if there isn't any evidence that he is doing this you shouldn't put too much thought into it, it'll just cause you to over think it and the thoughts in your mind will cause more doubt in your heart then anything ever could. Once that seed of doubt is planted, almost nothing will be able to ever erase it from you heart, you will always have that thought that he is cheating or will cheat or have cheated on you. Talk with your husband, tell him how you feel about it, let him know how important your marriage is to you, let him decide if he wants to risk it all for a few moments of ??? Tell him about the 80/20 rule: you're only going to get 80 of what you want/need in a marriage, so when another woman comes around and she's offering 20, it looks real good cause you ain't getting any, so you leave the 80 thinking you're going to get more, but you end up getting a 20 only, and that 80 is gone already....

This happened with my husband and I. I found out he was sharing inappropriate emails and ims with a woman he met online. I confronted him about it, and we worked it out. We've had a lot of good years since because we understand how important trust is, and how a good thing can be lost over some B.S. It sounds like you haven't been able to put the episode behind you. You don't say what both of you did after the confrontation. Did you discuss it? Did he explain why he did it? Did you discuss what would happen if it ever happened again? Until he regains your trust, you will always have a nagging feeling.