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What should I wear to my sister's Hasidic Jewish wedding?

My sister is getting married pretty soon. They are going to be having the wedding in Jerusalem. I am not sure what exactly to wear because I was not raised Orthodox, and I especially have not spent much time around the Hasidic sect my sister joined, its the Breslov. My parents and brothers and I are going to the wedding. Does anyone who is Jewish and familiar with the standards of dress know?

Can I wear a long dress with a cardigan over it? Can I have my chest area (above the breasts) exposed at all, or does the cardigan need to be buttoned the whole way up? Can it be 3/4-length sleeves? Can I remove the cardigan during the reception (since men and women are separated) or does it have to be worn the whole time? Is there anything else I should expect at the wedding?

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
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    I Googled it. I found garments for Orthodox men, nothing for women.

    My afvice would be to talk to your sister and say, "What are people wearing to your wedding?"

    http://www.jewish-history.com/minhag.htm

    I don't think that it would be a good idea to show any skin other than your forearms. Please remember that this is a worship service; do not call attention to yourself.

    If you have the cardigan on, see what other women are doing at the reception.

  • 1 decade ago

    Okay - Breslov is pretty intense. You'll need to wear sleeves that cover your elbow (3/4 is fine), and your chest needs to be covered up until the collarbone. A long dress with a cardigan is fine, but you should keep the cardigan on the entire time, even though the dancing gets pretty frenzied. You should also make sure to have your legs and feet covered by stockings, and if you're married, you'd want to cover your hair.

    The wedding will probably be typically Orthodox. I haven't been to a Breslov wedding, but I can't imagine it's very different from the norm, except for a few minor things.

    If you have any more questions, feel free to email. :)

    Source(s): Religious Jew
  • 1 decade ago

    Wear a skirt that covers your knees.

    Wear stockings or tights.

    Wear a shirt that is cut high and covers the collarbones.

    Wear sleeves that cover your elbows (so 3/4 is fine)

    Don't wear anything super tight or provocative.

    You should be fine.

    Mazal Tov!

    Oh - and keep the cardigan on at all times - if it's buttoned all the way over a long dress, that sounds good.

  • 1 decade ago

    Now, how to dress:

    The human body is a lofty medium, a gift from G-d that allows us to use this world in our pursuit of the spiritual. Jewish Law therefore requires that we honor our bodies, that is, ourselves, in recognizing our own holiness, and to dress ourselves with the dignity we and our bodies deserve.

    Formal dress is not required, though it is obviously appropriate given the occasion. What is required is clothing that reaches up to the collar bone in the front, and to just below the nape of the neck in the back, and it must extend below the knees. Clothing should not be tight or revealing in any way.

    Women's legs should be covered with stockings, not necessarily opaque. Taupe or beige are accepted in some communities, others suggest darker colors. Flashy colors, especially of stockings, are not good. The more glaring shades of red are forbidden in any sort of clothing.

    Long sleeves that cover the elbows are also required. This is appropriate for both men and women. Women should wear dresses or skirts (without slits), but not pants. The dress or skirt should reach below the knees, and stockings should cover the legs until above the knee. Makeup is permitted.

    The upper parts of the neck do not have to be completely covered.

    Men, single or married, should wear a yarmulka (kippa) that covers a large portion of the head. Married (and formerly married) women should cover their hair entirely. Women and girls who have never been married may leave their hair uncovered.

    here another site that may prove useful for you:

    http://www.jewish-history.com/minhag.htm

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  • 1 decade ago

    Wear a long sleeved wool dress that is modest, with a Pearl necklace.

    Leave your Cardigan at home.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Many of my friends live in Israel--religious Jewish weddings involve various ceremonies, from signing of the contract by the groom, to the veiling of his bride, to the actual commitment by him under the huppah, sharing of wine, giving her a ring (which by the way he is asked if was purchased by him and has some worth), breaking of the glass (some say the marriage should last as long as it would be to try to put the glass together, another is to remind of the destruction of the Holy Temple and God willing we should see it built in our day). My Cherokee tribe has a very similar and familiar wedding ceremony and if throw in Jewish with one, you get a great pow-wow! lol

    If the couple didn't have a formal engagement "contract." This is sometimes done before the wedding with the breaking of a plate, etc. from mothers of both sides or someone you have selected. The bride is lead to the hubbah by parents or a couple standing in for them.

    Usually there is a separate seating arrangement, some with a heavy screen, some with hardy a screen and both sides see the couple at the end of it. In a way it is great--single, orphaned, widowed women don't feel isolated or alone and usually the men like talking about sports, movies, videos,technology, medicine, computers, cars, and of course religion and political topics, etc. which I don't mind, but do enjoy the conversations with women and friends I haven't seen for a while to catch up girl talk whether you are 18 or 80.

    So, with a Breslov wedding, it is very emotional, explosive, even entertainment with comic relief. See on goodle videos, type in "Breslov wedding", some are on so funny, check out the men in grass skirts.

    One of my best friends, God willing should be well, is from a Sephardic family and married into the Chabad community. She is also a Breslov, but had her wedding in the Chabad community in Brooklyn. As said by others, dressing is modest, very. I have a silk navy suit on keep on hand for most wedding and wear a silk mock sleeveless white blouse under jacket which I don't take off. The screens that separate the men from women isn't always so private, it is a spiritual thing. While women can see the men, the screen is really for the men not to oogle over the women, like they would do that!

    There might be a lot of speaking, many connecting the names of the couple with some esoteric knowledge from the Rabbe Nachman, a direct descendant of Rebbe Israel, The Baal Shev Tov (Master of the Good Name). Breslov Jews have no real leader, but many great scholars among them, some study with Chabad around the world, and I have learned a lot from my girlfriend on the Jews from Arabia, Iraq and Iran besides New York and Israel.

    Some men come dressed in black coats, white shirts with and without ties. Some wear a silk coat, some with black hats, others with just a kippah. Men come with beards, long and short, sidelocks long, some hidden, some short. Young men show up even beardless. On the street a student studying Rebbe Nachman works, just might look very normal, tee shirt, jeans, short beard and carrying his guitar.

    Music and meditation is important in the community. They spend a lot of time in solitude praying and believe all can reach a very high level of spirituality regardless of your background.

    At the two Breslov weddings I went, most women that came wore dark clothing with sleeves to the wrist, tops almost to the neck, and skirts below the knee, if real formal you will see fancy colors and lots of lace, but as said by others, no red (brings out the fire and desire of the animal soul), I wonder why RC Church cardinals wear red? Romans wore red in battle to hid the blood. So colors each have symbols like with the God-Fearers and the Rainbow (Seven Colors of the Rainbow, a booklet on the laws for righteous gentiles).

    Again, for dress, be very conservative, dress like you know God is there and sees everything. I think this when I try to, for me, to STAY conservative in my choices, or I would let loose, especially since I have always liked the color red. (With green eyes, I thought it was great, well, so much for red, I save them for nightgowns).

    The wedding will be far from dull, women dance, men dance, lots of kids dancing and even babies being held by their father or mother. Lots of good food, and fun. So buttoning up is good idea and so is 3/4 sleeves, check out the videos, you even see maroon color. Play it by ear and sight and you would have a good time.

    See also on google: type in "Breslov Jews" and there are a lot of sights and videos to see and to know about the community. UTube has various Jewish weddings.

    If really concern about dress or color, call your sister, Israel is warm and many wear light weave clothing and lighter colors.

    Good luck.

    Source(s): See above
  • 4 years ago

    I think short dresses, coz you showcase more hip and legs, but really it doesn't matter both goes great

  • ?
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    I believe long skirts are excellent, you're covered up with no restrictions of pants.

  • 1 decade ago

    You can wear whatever you want just don't exposed anything at all.

  • 1 decade ago

    Clothes.

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