Should we be asked to help pay for our own baby shower?

my mother in law asked me to have an abortion. And her husband offered to pay for it! Horrible family i joined. I doubt there throwing me a shower, funny that theyd so freely give me money to murder their grandchild. In laws suck, but be glad your not in my situation. And it was very rude of her to ask but maybe shes short on cash too. If it bothers you then have your husband tell her how you both feel. But maybe helping her with the shower wouldnt be so bad. Be the bigger person and dont let her get to you. What matters most is the beautiful life coming. And the baby mainly needs your love. Congratulations and goodluck.

A baby shower can be pricey and if she volunteered she should pay for it, not you. Maybe if you or her have some friends that could help your mother in law out with the money and planning then they ould get credit for that instead. Having a baby shower will really save you money if people bring you gifts and diapers. It is a hard decision but i would have the baby shower and ask some of your friends instead of buying a gift help pitch in with the shower.. just a thought. Hope it works out and congrats on your preg.!

Don't pay towards it- better to say that it is a lovely idea, but that on reflection paying for a party would not be a good use of funds with a baby on the way. She can hardly argue with that.

Talk to a few friends if you really still want a little shower, and if they offer then you can ask your mother in law along (if you like) and say they arranged it all without you- isn't that nice?

I've never heard of anyone really chipping in for their own shower. Maybe kindly tell her that since money is tight you would rather save your money for the baby rather than a shower. Or she could do a cheaper shower and skip the party favors (or do home made ones - cookies in a decorative bag or mixed nuts) and only serve a sheet cake bought at your local grocery store and some fruit salad and pasta salad. That should be enough - depending on how many people you invite. No one should ever expect a meal at a shower.

Best of luck and congratulations on your baby! Isn't it exciting and overwhelming all at once!

Thats one of the dumbest things....First of all, how does she volunteer and then ask for help with money? You don't volunteer if you don't want to be responsible for it all. Second, you don't ask the expecting couple for money/help for their own baby shower. If she needed help she should've asked another friend/family member. Then her kinowing your situation right now is even more tasteless for her to be asking something like that. I would not give her money for that. You will be spending enough after the baby is born. Definitely don't spend money on this. That's a shame that she is putting you in a situation where you even have to address this sort of request for your own baby shower. Good luck!

maybe your mother in law can ask someone close to you (a good friend the soon to be godparent) to help fund the shower. I just recently, this month organized a baby shower for my best friend with the help of a couple of friends and we all split the costs. You and your husband should not be asked to help pay for your own baby shower!

Hope this was somewhat helpful, good luck!

No, you shouldn't have to put money towards your own shower. Definitely tell her (or have your husband tell her) that you will be spending any extra money on things for the baby, and not for a party.

She should be getting together with some of your friends or other people who are interested in helping out.

What? If you help pay for the shower, more people will come and you can get lots more gifts, probably more than you would be able to get for that same amount of money yourself. And, isn't the point of a baby shower, especially one being thrown for you by your family, to get gifts?

It should be all on the host if you are co hosting then maybe you could put in some expense but you're not she is and she should pay for it or maybe get help from other family members to help pay. My mom tried to do the same thing to me and my brother told her that I shouldn't have to help pay especially since we're in the same boat as you I got laid off at 6 months. Good Luck!!

Baby showers are not put on or paid for by the people the shower is for. In other words, if you MIL doesn't have the money to pay for it, she needs to recruite some of her friends to help. You shouldn't have to pay a dime.