Is it ok to be feeling this way about your wife?

This sounds like my life

Except you need to add gambling addictions online auction addictions to the mix.

In my case she left me 3 days before my birthday & now some 6 months later is making noise that she may of made a mistake.

Though still blames me for breakup !!!

She left me twice & the first time i went back for our kids.

But you know what i am happy now.A liitle lonely at times

Ive got one promotion at work & am currently on a 2nd sponsored promotion course ..

So my life is starting to turn around My only real heartache is my kids

I miss them terribly & that first couple of months is a pain in which it is hard to see your way out of !!! it doesnt go away you just learn how to manage it.

So mate that is what can happen so if u are unhappy look to ways to get ouy to mininise the pain but by all means make a choice based on reality

I think your feelings are justified. You seem to be the only one making any type of effort, and that isn't good. You've apparently tried talking about the issues, and she goes through the motions for a day or two, then it's back to the same old thing. At this point, I agree that you'd probably be better off if you move on, because there's no happiness in your current situation. Unfortunately, even though you're the "victim", you'll probably end up as the non-custodial parent and have to pay child support/alimony. I wish I could give you a "magic" answer, and make it all good, but we both know that's impossible. Anyway, I wish you all the best, and I hope you find a solution.

No it's not bad that you feel this way. It sounds like you two don't have an actual relationship with eachother. My suggestion to you is to tell her that you feel stretched thin and ignored emotionally. If you want to try to make it work I suggest that you guys try spending quality time together as if you were dating for the first time again, if that makes sense. You need to reconnect, and for couples who've 1. been together for a long time and 2. don't have a "personal" life together anymore, sometimes the best solution is to start off by putting everything out on the table that is wrong, for BOTH of you, (without passing judgement OR being to aggressive/attacking about it) and then start to get to know eachother all over again.

However, if you're not at all interested in staying with her or trying to make it work, then that is that and you need to address the obviouse next steps...

First of all... Your a wonderful man. I understand that the whole cheating issue must be hard. Have you tried communicating with your wife about the situation? Do you have people who have an influence in your home? Speak with your wife on how you feel. Because in every marriage there is Always time of dislike, when there is no attraction. You just have to find that new romance. People change so don't try to find that old flame, love. Create a new one, with your wife. On her behalf she is probably depressed. That is probably the reason why she doesn't do much, or anything at all.Remember for better or for worst. Help her get out of it.

I can understand how you feel. My first wife cheated on me as well. Divorce was the best option for me because the infidelity was just the icing on the cake. Honestly, I'm surprised you married her knowing she cheated while dating. I personally feel that if a woman can't keep her legs closed when she's a girlfriend, it's not worth going into a marriage.

Anyway, this is your decision. Counseling may or may not work but it's not for everyone. You obviously feel like breaking free of this marriage because you know you deserve better. Try to have an amicable divorce for the kid's sake but move on for yourself. Don't let anyone try to make you feel guilty about it.

I don't think you're wrong..... if you've already spoken your mind and she knows how you feel but makes no real effort to meet your needs I think it may be time to move on, indeed. I assume that you also know what HER needs are and have done all you can to fulfill them. The cheating thing...... that's another story. I personally would have never forgiven my partner cheating on me, much less twice. But you did it out of free will so I suppose you're happy with your decision and have no regretted it. However, it takes 2 to want to make things work and maybe she should try harder because of what she did...... and she isn't doing so. I understand your frustration and you have all the right to be free and try to find someone who does fulfill your needs. But do it that way - first divorce, then date - not the other way round. No need to hurt anyone while searching for your happiness.

It's true that NO ONE should settle for less than they deserve, but only YOU can stop it since it is YOU who has been taking this BS for so long. You need to make a decision and leave if that's what will make you happy. Life's too short to waste it with someone who doesn't bring good things to our lives.

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your wife is not appreciating you at all. she takes you for granted. you definitely deserves better. I can tell you this she will not find another man to do the things you are doing. you said you've told her many times about the things she is not doing right, but after a few days it goes right back to the way it was. she does not take you serious. I would leave maybe then she will see what she has, and get her act together. allot of other woman would appreciate you and so would I. good luck!

It seems YOUR NOT THERE!. If there is nothing giving you a reason for being there why make both of you suffer. You think you can find someone who's right for you and she's probable thinking the same.She most likely wants a husband that is there a lot more then you are. Don't blame her. It's both of your fault.I worked long hours out of town when I was married. I know it was a big factor in my divorce.

You are not wrong at all...it seems like you're doing everything while she sits back and watches.....People like to give up so quickly on marriage...have ya'll tried counseling? maybe she's going through a midlife crisis? I would suggest asking her to join you in counseling. Do you do things just to show her how much you appreciate her? If you have time, go get a movie called Fireproof....it's all about marriage, with a great lesson learnt. Best wishes to you and yours.

First of all you forgave so you shouldn't bring it up. Secondly, that what happens when couples take each other for granted. Of course those are my opinions. I think you're ready to move on. Also sometimes the grass isn't greener on the other side.