Turbulant relationship between soul-mates - any advice?

Relationships are not things that just happen well on their own. in every relationship there are disagreements, personal insecurities and battles of wills. Especially if both have strong self will! A true friendship is one where each friend is first and foremost concerned with a) the happy mental health of the other b) the physical well being of the other c) the present comfort of the other. A true friend will also NOT get offended, will remain tolerant during outbursts and should always be working hard to find a positive amicable solutions to every problem. It is usual that most people do not have ground rules for " friendship" and actually never sit down and actively discuss together what a friend should be with each other. So, many relationships fail because the couple do not make the important choice to grow together. If both are open , honest and let go of all negative and destructive thoughts and emotions and focus on doing this, then that is the best possible starting point for a successful relationship. Then talking over the little things becomes totally easy, positive and even fun to do! Maybe you should discuss this with can both learn to communicate openly, honestly and immediately, when issues arise for any of you, and see if you can both go to the next level of mutual learning for your friendship? None of you should bottle anything up either, be sure to immediately discuss issues before your fears and insecure mind twists things out of proportion and make you both do crazy things like ignore each other or finish it , yet again!

Hope this helps!

BAZ

You two have to be truthful with each other about what you fear the other one is going to do. You also have to be honest about any 'trust issues' that you are having. It probably would also be helpful to come to the agreement (at a time that you are not arguing) that you both will walk away and take a break before an argument becomes too hurtful and/or intense.

Also practice how you communicate an issue to each other. Instead of saying "You made me so angry when you did *blank*" say "When you did *blank* I felt so angry because..." This way you are taking off the pressure of blame which stops your partner from immediately shutting down and feeling the need to defend themselves...then they can actual listen to you fully.

Soul mates have it rough because half the problems are related to past lives. On a soul level you guys already know each other and you have probably hurt each other the same way every time. So now those old hurts and fears are coming up again, long before either of you gets the chance to play them out. So you just have to treat each other really gently and get through that period, learn to establish trust between each other. This takes time.

You can also call on the assistance of the romance Angels and Archangel Chamuel. Ask them to guard over your relationship and help you both through the rough times.

If both of you acknowledge that you are soul mates, it should be a little easier because both of you are open to trying new things to make the relationship more peaceful. You just have to be really proactive about all this, that is your best bet for success.

http://www.soulmateoracle.com/articles.html

Soul mates are such a blessing and very special! I have my soul mate....we are so close, can talk about anything and then can have the biggest fights. Maybe because we are so close and think so much alike that we get hurt more than any other relationship. What we have learned is to say "time out", cool off a bit to think through what we are really upset about and then come back together and talk about it. When we take this time for each other it is also for ourselves, a time to reflect on what really bothers us and to also realize that even though we are so close we can't read each others thoughts or needs, we need to share that still with each other. I probably get most upset when I think he should know what I'm feeling, but he doesn't. He knows me better than anyone else, but I am a woman and still think and feel different than a man. I need to share that info and so does he. We value our own space and the time we spend together. We look at our fights as a bump in the road. The road to a great relationship is sometimes under construction and just needs a little fixing. Work together on the bump and it should be smooth sailing. Good Luck!

You'll have to read...

"Soul Mates and Twin Flames," Elizabeth Clare Prophet,

"For Men Only" and "For Women Only," Shaunti Feldhahn,

"Transcendent Sex," Jenny Wade, and

"Sexual Force or the Winged Dragon," O. M. Aivanhov.

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In the case of soul mates, perhaps you both had a previous life together and have carried some unresolved issue into this life?

Also, I would suggest you look at the things that seem to instigate a fight. Perhaps that is a pattern that you haven't noticed yet, that could be identified and then dealt with to improve your relationship.

I hope that helps. :)

*smiles* well I can tell you everything will be fine your going through a tough patch at the moment at over time it will get better keep talking to your boyfreind, and do loads of compermising and you will slowly heal please don't feel to bad that your fighting alot as I know this is very normal for couples who fight will get back together. I know as I am speaking from experiance here on this matter. I will pray for you both and I hope you will find peace in each others love.

Courage and God Willing

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i'm a Libra with a Scorpio Venus Taurus three times! For some reason I charm to Taurus and that they have continually needed serious relationships with me. i might say they have been passionate yet relatively complicated paintings and extremely moody and aggressive. I even have dated Gemini until now and it went disastrous and replaced into very short and his thoughts saved changing. He had to come back with me yet I refused. when I dated Leo it replaced into additionally disastrous and that i felt like it replaced into all one way and he replaced into basically fascinated interior the intercourse, and that i've got been given very very annoyed. Sagittarius replaced into basically very short and he slept with somebody else virtually as quickly as all of us started dating - yet a minimum of he admitted it and suggested sorry and that he replaced into no longer waiting for a dating and we stayed acquaintances and nevertheless see one yet another. i'm now dating a maximum cancers and that's my first time I even have dated one and it is going the terrific so far. we've been together for a year and four months so far.

if you were really soul mates, there would be no turbulence all the time and you wouldn't keep hurting each other...i think you should really take a BREAK and break up. If you find that you cant be happy with anyone else, then get back together. But explore your possibilities.