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ok so i have this friend who is my bestie and there is this guy who i used to like...us three basically got into a fight together and they guy who is obsessed with me, and wont leave me alone got a hold of my phone that i used to have. so he texts my best friend saying something like "dont ever look at her or talk to her again" which he was talking about me. so then my bestie calls me and tells me what this guy is doing, and my buddy is pissed off like non other, and i try and talk to the guy who texted him. but my bestie got the cops involved and i told him i could handle it. so then i get pissed off at both of them one for talking to my bestie and got pissed with my bestie for getting the cops involved. so i talked to my bestie on tuesday or maybe monday cant remember, and this happend on a sunday night and he tells me that we should take time apart and not talk for a while, and i said ok even tho i didnt want to agree with him. but then he says well just until i calm down then im like ok. and now when i see my bestie i dont look at him very often, and im afraid that im gonna lose him and i talked it over and over with the both of the guys and my bestie still hasnt talk to me....i tried texting my buddy but he wont text me back or anything. what can i do or what should i do...should i wait for him to talk to me?? gimme some suggestions if possible im really scared that he wont talk to me again...PLEASE HELP

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Wow, you got yourself a situation didn't you!

    Take step backwards from it and think about it for a moment.

    You like your 'bestie" a lot , I get that, but did either of them behave in a mature manner?

    Did any one, come to that?

    I found it a little difficult in my befuddled state to quite work it out, but what I would say is walk away for a while. At least until all the testosterone has leached from their bodies.

    Just text in once a week for the next couple of weeks, showing that you care and are checking that your 'bestie' is ok.Don't write anything more than that and let your friend do the hunting for your friendship..

    It will all calm down and get sorted and you don't appear to have done anything wrong, so just let nature and time take its course.

    Oh and write it in the memory book in your mind so that when you get to my age and hear of someone else with the same problem, you can remember how hurtful it all was!

  • 1 decade ago

    What you have is immature young males that put way too much thought into being mad at other males. They also feel that you should not talk to the other guy. They had their pride hurt when you didn't pick one over the other. This is not uncommon, if they were animals they would fight it out for your sole friendship. This is not your fault because no matter what you did there would be someone with hurt feelings. If it were me in your situation, I'd take a deep breath and be glad your not a young teenage boy.They have to work it out. Anything you do will be wrong in their eyes. Sit back and stop trying to force this situation to a logical conclusion. Let them earn your friendship.and don't get to upset, as you have two guys that really care for you. You will just make it worse trying to fix this, I know it's scary but you have to not show any favoritism.

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