Do you think adoptees have the right to refuse reunion?

I don't think either side should have their right to refuse removed, as unfortunate and hurtful as a refusal is. But I also think that one meeting isn't too much to ask for.

I know that adoptees who refuse reunion have their reasons, just like first moms, dads, or siblings do. That said, I do think that the adoptee owes it to themselves, their current or future children, and their first families to at least meet once and have an exchange of info. The adoptee may not want a relationship/information or whatnot, but I don't think they should get to make that choice for their kids.

No one can force another to meet with them what ever the reason. As for obligation I think that is a matter for individuals to work out there can be no hard and fast rule on this for either adopters or natural parents. In an ideal senario all would end up friends but this ideal is not I have discovered the norm at least not for my generation of 50's and 60's children given up more often the mother panics and runs and will not meet. So the adoptee in my mind has rights to do what is the best for them as they see it.

I was one who said bio-parents had the right to refuse reunion, though I believe providing information and possibly one meeting is a good thing to do, even if nothing else is forthcoming.

I also believe adoptees have the right to refuse reunion. As with bio-parents who may not want to revisit that part of their lives, I believe adoptees who feel secure in their families and wish things to remain the way they are should have that right.

Many men I know who were adoptees have no interest in searching or meeting with their bio-parents. I believe that is because men have more capacity to compartmentalize and see things as black and white. I do not think they owe their bio parents a meeting even if the bio parents are searching.

But I think agreeing to one meeting and exchange of photos or being Facebook friends perhaps is a considerate thing to do in either circumstance.

I absolutely believe that an adoptee has the right to refuse a reunion. When a parent relinquishes their rights by placing a child up for adoption, they may have second thoughts, but in the case of a closed adoption, they are agreeing that the child will not have contact with them. As an adoptee, I would not welcome contact from my biological family.

Neither the adoptee nor the bio mother owe the other anything. It is a personal choice if they want to meet or not and no one has the right to force anyone in to a reunion they don't want.

I actually think either party has the right to refuse reunion. I'm uncomfortable with the concept of unwanted contact ever being "owed" to someone else.

I didn't respond to the other question, but I don't think either adoptees or the parents who relinquished them are obligated to reunite. Making contact at least once is certainly a good thing to consider, but I don't think anyone should feel forced against their will.

People have the right to say no to contact, in adoption situations as well as other parts of life.

I think both sides have the -right- to refuse reunion. They are adults. They have the right to make whatever choice feels right for them.

However, personally, I would encourage them to also consider the needs and desires of the other person and to think about what the reunion may mean to them. It is the same as any person to person interaction. Of course the people involved have the right to make decisions about the interaction, but it is also awesome if they can consider not just their own feelings and preferences but the needs and desires of the other parties involved.

Adoptees do have the right to refuse reunion, nobody should be forced to do something they don't want to do. I haven't read the other question so from my personal point of view one meeting isn't owed by either natural mother or adoptee. However whilst I do agree natural mothers should give medical information adoptees don't have that obligation.

I think they should have the right to refuse-HOWEVER I am an A-mom-my son is only 17months right now. Our adoption is pretty much closed (at birthmoms request) although we have had update contact with birth grandma. I only talk positively to my son (yes-even at his young age) about his birth family and how much they cared about him and wanted to do what they felt was in his best interest. I want him to grow up knowing that they did what they did for him out of love. I would strongly encourage him to meet them should the opportunity arise-his birth grandma was an extraordinary warm,kind and caring lady who told us all about her wonderful daughter and the circumstances. I feel it would be important for them to meet if both sides were willing and I would supportively encourage him to do so.

honestly i think they should have a right but at the same time im in a situation where i hope my neice doesnt think that way and refuse to me her family. because you never know the real reason behind the mother adopting the child out. maybe it was for a understandable reason like giving you a better home or something.