Do you believe there's a double standard with teen guys and girls [concerning when they should have sex]?

living in the state of Oklahoma, I know that there is a double standard.

the law for legal age of consent is as follows:

for females: 16 if not a virgin, 18 if a virgin

for males: 16 regardless of virginity status

me personally, I would expect my kids to have common sense to know what is right for them. That was how my parents were with me. They weren't happy when they found out that I was sexually active (I was 14) but they didn't freak out on me about it and I could come to them.

I guess two other answers really gave you an answer about whether or not there's a double standard. If things were "fair" in our country, we'd be worried that our sons are going to knock up someone's daughter. Why wouldn't someone need to worry about the financial and other responsibilities required to raise a child just because their child is the father and not the mother?

If I had kids I wouldn't tell either to wait until marriage because I'm an atheist, so I don't see the need to be a virgin when married. I'd tell them both to wait until they're absolutely ready to tackle any possible consequences.

of course there is a double standard your daughter can bring home a baby that the parents will have to support physically and financially.....your son can only bring home the news....you tell both of them to wait of course but the more issues and problems that can occur from sex lies with the girl

to tell them they can't and think that they wont is unrealistic.

i dont believe in marriage so i wouldn't tell them to wait until marriage unless it is in their personal belief to do so.

i would request that they wait at the absolute least till they are 16 and give them the "talk" and give condoms and stuff or whatever they need.

mainly all i would ask is make sure i'm not a really young grandfather

and i do not believe it should be any different for the girl then the guy and vice versa

Yes there are double standards, although I don't think it's fair. If you notice when a girl has sex at a young age she's called a whore, slut, and a ho. But, if a boy has sex at a young age no one cares, because it's "what boys do". I wouldn't tell my kids to wait until marriage, but, I'd tell them to wait until their older like 18-21.

In all honesty I think most young fathers would tell their daughters to wait, and their sons (jokingly like they would with their buddies) to "get as much as they can"

I won't reply for the mothers because I'm a dude and how the hell would I know.

Of course there is a double standard. At least amongst their peers, guys are seem as cool if they have sex. Girls are seen as sl*ts. I would tell my kids to wait but if they felt they were ready to be careful and use protection, because I can only guide them so far and the decision is ultimately up to them.

Both should wait for marriage. It makes the marriage stronger. Most couples who wait stay together.

my brother told my parents he was having sex,

and my mom was just really disgusted.

but i know that if I told them,

they would freak out and punish me.

I'd say it's less of a big deal for guys to be doing IT than girls.

we risk the danger of pregnency, so it's a lot worse and more "dangerous" to our futures

I would advise both to wait. There's would be no double standard and unfair treatment. It's the Christian way period.