What does this make me compared to my classmates?

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I'm 20, and am a 2nd Year student at University. The majority of the people I've met in my course laugh and make jokes/banter about things which I don't understand or find funny at all. And they engage in so much gossip and trivial topics like TV shows and celebrities. I find most of the conversations dull and shallow.

I don't mind doing some small talk so I can just communicate for the sake of communicating without appearing to ignore them. But it's as if banter/gossip/small talk is all they care about. When I do try to talk about something deeper/philosophical things, they're reluctant to talk about it, they ignore what I say, or they make jokes on my comments. 

I'm not upset coz I have friends outside my Uni course but I'm a bit annoyed in the way they behave. I feel like the black sheep within my year, like I don't really fit in. I do find some things humorous/amusing, but the antics and stuff they say/do is just too much in my opinion!

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What it makes you is more mature.

Count yourself lucky that you're ahead of the curb in this, because while they're whittling away their time with banter that will not get them ahead in life, you can expand that mind of yours on things that you think that matter.

Your college years are going to be the ones where you start to realize that not everyone thinks alike or fits in, in an adult sense. You will drift away from people who you thought you used to be close to, but you can end up drifting into people who you -can- talk to.

Also, most people are afraid of speaking of deeper things as it could lead to some serious differences which might make for heated debates. Don't fault them for that as most folks around your age are not willing to delve that deep yet. Like I said, you are a bit more mature then they are.

You may need to find a club or a social circle that's willing to be a little more intellectual then the current people you're about. For now, just smile, nod your head, and keep studying. You'll be better off in the end.

Trilliana · Answer

Hi Xaws,
Know that you are in the top 10% of those who will succeed in life; learn about folks who are extremely successful and you will learn that they didn't fit in (Bill Gates/Donald Trump/Oprah/etc.)  Keep doing the same things you are doing (enjoy it when you find it humorous/amusing) and the let the other things slide. You ARE the black sheep now so take advantage of the opportunity.  Find out what makes those guys tick without trying to change them; in the future, you will be in a position to use that knowledge to provide them products or services, directly or indirectly.   Accept them as they are; try not to engage them in something they cannot appreciate at this time.  However, if you hang around them without expecting anything, you might find that when they have emotional issues they cannot resolve, you will be their choice to help them through the issue. Best Wishes!

stayhomemom · Answer

Maybe your are bit more mature than other students in your school.  There is nothing wrong with that.  Maybe you should take sociology class or philosophy class.  These classes deal with some deep social issues. I liked both classes.

Kifre Dude · Answer

Join a society that interests you, that way you can find people who are similar to you. At it can't be possible that you are the only person in your year, go and discover!!!

Anonymous · Answer

Don't care for these silly things. Consider that you are so special and different when compared to others. Don't ever think about others opinion. Be what you are.

jim raynor Vs Kerrigan. · Answer

i wish there were a lot of better people out there like you....most people i meet are so stupid....all they talk about is what goes on t.v and stuff...so annoying and so boring they all are .....or mocking about someone is all they do....

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