What do you consider cheating?

anything you wouldn't do in front of eachother

For me cheating is anything he offers to someone else that should be meant for you. It could be sex, it could be his time, his effort, his money, his thoughts, his feelings, his sorrow, his triumphs. There is a line that is crossed but we all flirt a little now or then... we do it as much for ourselves as we do expecting it will lead somewhere.

Waitresses flirt with guys a little hoping that the $2.00 will turn into a $5.00 tip... women notice when men notice them... sometimes it can make a person feel better to know that they still "Have It"...

Your husband has a pretty typical male view of adultery... until he has sex he is not cheating... Most of us don't believe that. Long before there is a sexual encounter people cheat by holding back their time, love, affection, and interest from the spouses... I would let your hubby know that cheating starts well before someone has an orgasm and he better keep that in mind.

well it does differ from person to person my partner and I feel that if one puts them self in a sistuation where cheating could arrise that is cheating!

for example i know i get flirty when i drink so if i go drinking at a friends house sweet!

if i go to a bar to drink -- well they don't call it a hook up place for nothing!

but with how you and your husband see things looks as tho you have more freedom then he does! as if you both love each other then you will adhear to what your other persons expections of cheating are!

hense why i'm very greatful my partner and I our on the same page!

talk about it sweetie!

It's not a hard universal definition; some people have open marriages but still have strict boundaries on acceptable behavior about it.

The affair starts /long/ before the sex happens. Affairs start emotional and then become sexual.

I don't mind if my wife is flirty; it's when it starts moving beyond that to one on one conversations and spending time with just the two of them that's it's pushed beyond acceptable - that's a date!

Cheating: Doing something you wouldn't do if your spouse was in the room or otherwise knew about it.

That is the definition of cheating my husband and I live by.

I would bet your husband has done something shy of intercourse and doesnt want you to think its actually cheating!!

Sounds like he is trying to rationalize IM'ing, cyber sex, webcaming, websites set-up for the express purpose of voyeurism, sexting, flirty emails... all exchanged with heavy sexual undertones... the list goes on and on. If it's not cheating, would he be OK with you doing all of the above with another man? And, of course, it wouldn't be cheating if you had sexually-charged conversations with other men... right?

Didn't think so...

Touching,snogging and most other forms of physical contact with any other woman,apart from you or his own mother should be thought of as cheating,including flirting(he would`nt be so keen if you were to do the flirting ,would he?)

My ex decided she wanted to go to Europe one winter (over Christmas and New years) leaving me alone for the holidays.

While I work, pay the bills and earn health insurance and her tuition reimbursement so she could go to school, she was gonna go visit a few countries in Europe.

Her brother told me to forbid her from going. I said that she could do what she wanted, I would express my feeligns that i strongly did NOT want her to go, but I would never forbid her as she was a free woman (I dont need to twist a woman's arm to get her to love me - I am plenty worthy of love).

Her ex was in Spain and she promised she wouldn't go visit him (she was going to Spain, but a different part).

When she returned, she said she had gone to the island where he was staying and they had kissed, but they did not have sex.

The next time she asked for a divorce (she used to yell at the top of her lungs in the middle of the night that she wanted a divorce), I accepted.

Then she said, "Can we stay married so I can keep your health insurance and tuition reimbursement?"

I told her she could until I found another woman to marry. I found my current wife within about two months and then told her we would be getting the legal divorce.

She later accused me falsely of having abandoned her for another woman.

I hope it works out for you!

theres emotional cheating,(becoming emotionally dependent on someone of the opposite sex other then your spouse or significant other) and physical cheating, (anything physically intimate with anyone other then your spouse or significant other)

Check out this blog on cheating. My husband cheated on me and it was the biggest surprise of my life. Be very careful!