Very raw and obscene question...but it is 100% serious. Preferable mental health experts only please?

This is the most awesome post ever.

That said, she's probably looking for something new to get the excitement going. I'm sure you guys lead a constant Rockstar/James Bond lifestyle/relationship but after seven years even the best things can start to feel old, even if it's only on a subconscious level.

I've been in two long-term relationships (5+ years) and had many other shorter ones and have found that talking about bills and vacuuming and who gets to do the dishes just isn't as exciting after the four-hundredth time (and isn't nearly as fun as the "hey, we've got thirty minutes for lunch, let's go ***** somewhere" attitude of new relationships).

So yeah, my guess is that she's just trying out some new stuff, pushing the established boundaries a little (or a lot -- it's all a matter of perspective) to see what you're willing to do.

Using the passion of the moment to try new things may not always work, but it's less awkward than her coming up to you while you're getting ready for church on Sunday morning and saying "Hey honey, how would you feel about licking my asshole whilst unable to protest because I've tied you to the bed and climbed on top of you, effectively cutting off the vital supply of oxygen to your brain and forcing you to literally inhale, from my a.ss, chunks of that delicious pasta fagioli you made when your parents visited on Friday?"

It honestly doesn't sound like a mental health issue; it sounds like somehow your girlfriend had a new experience and loved it. Perhaps she saw a bondage film, read a suggestive piece of literature, did some research online, or even met someone with whom she had an 'experience'. I'm not trying to imply anything about your girlfriend, but you have been together for a very long time, and she might have gotten bored with your routine. Yes, perhaps you are going at it hot and heavy, but she might not be as good about communicating her desires to you as you assume she is. As another girl who has had a very hard time explaining what I want to my boyfriend, I would say that perhaps she was trying in the best way she knew to get you into her newest desire.

You might be grossed out by the fact she wanted you to do something sexual that also included her ***. So what? There are girls out there who are disgusted at the idea of putting a penis in their mouth. Everyone is different--perhaps you can sit down with her, explain calmly what you did and did not like about the experience, and suggest that you try new things at a slower and more forgiving pace. Do some research on methods of anal interaction, see if there's anything you're willing to try, and be as open-minded as possible. Also, suggest that she take a nice, warm, thorough bath and clean up very, very well next time...it won't smell.

Good luck to both of you. It sounds like you love her very much, so don't give up, just open up the lines of communication a little more. I'm sure you two can find a middle ground and take even more pleasure in both your sex life and how well you understand each other.

You need to TALK to her. Ask her where the sudden change came from. Let her know that you were not comfortable with what took place - tell her your reactions to her actions. Your questions cannot be answered by anyone other than her.

If this had happened the other way around (with the man pushing the woman to do things she did not want to do, as she verbally protested against him) then this would quickly and easily be categorized as sexual assault or rape, even if the two people involved are a couple. That is essentially what happened in this situation, so you have to check in with your emotions about what happened, and talk to her about it. Try to figure out from her viewpoint where all this came from. Then you can make an informed decision about your next step.

i know this seems a bit strange but sometimes women that have played the same role for a long period of time, willingly or not, they feel the urge for a change. some change in small ways, and others go to extremes. it sounds to me like she felt the need for a difference in roles.

another cause may be that something happened that made her think about your relationship, whether it be good or bad. when in a serious relationship some people, not only need change, they may also desire excitement. if she feels that she is stuck in the same routine everyday, she may have an unspoken desire. for these types of things, it is often easier just to act on your emotions than to talk about them, which can get awkward, (im not saying that what she did wasnt) but now that some time has passed and she has most likely cooled down, it may be easier to talk to her an find out what is going on.

the best thing for you to do now is to calmly confront her and the situation.

best of luck.

Sorry that you felt abused (if that's the right word). Don't ever let her tie you up again! I think (basically) she just didn't know what she was doing (exactly). She (sort of) had it right, but she wasn't supposed to suffocate you, and make you uncomfortable, and make it unpleasant. Imagine it, if you can, done properly. When you are breathing. Things smell great. Music's on. Each of you are taking turns giving & getting pleasure. It was the first time. She made mistakes. It was awkward. Forget it. Try again. DIFFERENTLY. Your turn. Gently. Good Luck!

This is not a mental health issue. This is simply a woman who obviously has a desire that she has been for whatever reason unwilling to share with you for a very long time. My guess is that she expected you not to like it, which is why she tied you up. She might have even enjoyed it more because you didn't like it.

So what now?

When sex is not on your mind or hers - and maybe even away from the house - you need to have a discussion. You need to talk about what happened and how it made you feel. You need to understand how it made her feel. Then you need to decide what is OK and not OK given these new things you have discovered about yourselves.

It sounds like either she's acting out her fantasy on you....or.......she heard on Answers that men love it when a woman sits on their face, while being tied up. Either way, she's proving to you that she likes to have control too sometimes. You need to talk to her about her fantasies and what she enjoys. Her sitting on your face is perhaps her way of telling you she needs more oral from you. I believe she enjoyed having power over you in the situation. She also enjoyed the fact that you didn't like what she was doing to you and that made her even more excited. Which is way she continued on for so long. She's telling you she needs variety in the bedroom, and she's initiating it. Maybe tonight it's your "fantasy" night with her.

I don't think your girlfriend is mentally ill, it sounds like she had something new to try out and thought you would enjoy it too. You obviously didn't and as a result had a horrible degrading experience. I think you need to talk to each other, she needs to respect that you don't like this and she needs to reassure you that she won't do it again because you didn't like it. Try and be sensitive when you explain though as she may feel terribly embarrassed thinking that you would have really enjoyed it. Good luck I hope that it all works out for you.

5'8 115 your gf needs to eat a cheese burger. Im 5'4 and 115 is under weight for me. But seconds sounds like your gf just wants her butt hole licked. Sounds gross yes but make her take a shower first. My husband licks mine. I dont ask for it but I dont complain either.. just do it and grow up afterwards brush your teeth good gargle with alchohol mouthwash wash your face and go to bed.

i am not a mental health expert or anything but i was reading what you wrote. sometimes i tie my man down too just for a little play to make it exciting. however i have never done what she did as far as her putting her butt in your face like that. maybe she was just trying to be funny. did you talk to her about it after wards? some girls like it when a guy licks their butt hole as Gross as it may seem (not me). i wouldn't think that she is mentally unstable but just wanted to do something different that she hasn't done before.