I have fallen for a married man who says he will leave his wife?

He is not going to leave his wife. He's just looking for a sex buddy cause he's probably not getting enough from his wife. Find someone else cause you're going to be the one crying in the end.

Sorry but you are victim of the common everyday cheating husband rhetoric. Read the 100 other questions on here about being the other woman and you will see the same garbage being sold to you all. He is not being neglected. They all say that because they know you then rise to the challenge to prove you are the better woman by always being attentive and stroking his ego and having sex all the time and making sure your time together is nothing but daisies and sunshine. He is not waiting for his children to grow up. That is the most cliche' overused excuse ever used by a married man. If he was that unhappy he would have left her already like the thousands of unhappy men before him. You do not have an ounce of concern for his children or you wouldn't be f*ckig their father who happens to be married to their mother. Yes you adore him. Yes you have amazing feelings for him. It's all part of the excitement of the affair and the chemicals pulsing through your veins. It's a fantasy bubble. It's not the real world. You aren't the better woman. You are the more convenient one. Let's see you do what you do for him when you cleaning his dirty underwear, paying bills, cooking for a family, and taking care of two children. You are enjoying yourself on some other woman's man's time and dime. And you wonder why she hates you?

You really have no morals do you? What do you really expect people to say when you make a post on here that you are whoring around with a married man? What goes on between his wife and him is non of your business...and you are only getting a one sided story. With you in the picture he will never be able to work out his problems. IF he leaves her...what do you think your relationship will be like with him? Do you think he is going to stay?

As far as the children are concerned....my father in law did this very this...his youngest daughter was 13..ish. And they all hated her with a passion...after 8yrs no one really likes her...she is the whore. It took a long time for the kids to accept their dad back into the "family". He missed out on a lot. If he doesn't want to be married then he should leave now. If you two really loved each other you both could have waited until he ended the marriage. She is 12 and you are going to wait how long...? 8-10yrs...that's just dumb. What is he saying about how the children feel? If they know I'm sure they let him know how they feel. He hurt their mom....one of the most important people in their life and it has probably rocked the comfort and stability of the house. They can no longer rely on the security of their house...and possibly their father.

IGNORANCE IS BLISS...at least for you it seems.

are you really asking? it sounds like such a mess i feel like you all are going to end up on Jerry Springer. In order to have real bond with a person it should be a solid bond. It sounds like you have a problem bond.Problem bond relationships never work. If you read any psycholgy books you would find that your brain is creating dopermine that creates a thrill on all involved ends...sadly most poeple mistake that for love and something more. let me simplify it...its like a drug. You are fine before it but once you do it you feel great.Then when the drug wears off...u end up ON THE BOTTOM. I would advise you to get out of this mess you have gotten yourself in. read some self improvement books. Also read 1 book about affairs and you will understand that your case is not so unique but typical. No one is perfect. You can learn from this.

How exactly has she ignored him? Why did she ignore him? If he were the picture perfect husband/father/partner he has made himself out to be why in the world would his wife neglect him?

Honey, he'll leave the mother of his children, he won't have a problem trading you up one day. Mark those words- there have been enough books written on this wisdom.

But still, your adoration will CHANGE all that won't it? (yeah. right)

Oh the kids? Kids have a way of prying a couple apart- hence his first marriage (he was probably a lousy father who dumped all the responsibilies onto his wife- exhausting her and causing the "neglect" he has so convienently placed on her)

His children already know. There is no reason for him to stay married. He is not doing it just for the kids. He is not leaving her. I understand that you love him. But he could leave her any time if he really wanted to. The children would be fine. 12 and 18 are alot older than most kids and when dealing with divorce. Give him an ultimatum or stop seeing him and move on because he is not leaving her.

Since you did not ask any questions, then let me ask you....(1)What do you get by getting involve with a married man? (2) Is there no other eligible man out there (3) Do you really want to be a home wrecker? (4) Now that the wife knows about it, do you enjoy looking at her suffering? (5) You saved him? You may kill him also in the end. Please lady, be fair to his wife, go find yourself an eligible man, plenty out there.

You adore your lying, deceitful, sleazy, married man, what the hell is wrong with you whores HE IS MARRIED and the heart attack he had was probably because of all the lying. It was a wake up call for the both of you and you ignored it. He made vows before GOD to honor and cherish his wife and he, as well as the rest of us will have to answer to GOD. All that bull about worrying about his kids is a way for you to justify screwing their father you could care less about the damage being done to those kids. Whore get a man that is single or is that so hard for a woman used to spreading her legs for a married man.

Saved his life? Wrecked it more like. If he hadn't been with you he would have been safely at home where he belongs. Do you think his wife could not have managed to dial for help just as well as you??

What an idiot.

YOur upset because his WIFE was mad because you were with him when he had a heart attack and wasn't glad you were there. ARE you kidding me? Men do NOT leave their wives like you want to think. Is he getting a divorce?? Has he filed for divorce. You are really stupid to think you are that important to this man. You also need to know that it is sooooo common for men to say their wives neglect them. They all say that, stupid. You are in for a world of hurt.