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Long story short, I needed a handy man to help me with some projects around my house, my niece who lives with?

her bf and his Father and is 5 months preggers. The Father recently was laid off for one day a week, handy and needing to make up that lost income. He started working on that day off for me, doing little things around the house. I found him to be very sweet, kind and clever. On my birthday, he took me out for an ice cream and we talked until 2:30 am. His wife left him 5 years ago to live in gov housing and has since been arrested for stealing like 3x. She just got out of jail yesterday and all kinds of drama has broke out, since we have started spending time together, nothing has happened other than some handholding, and a few friendly kisses. He asked for a divorce in November 2008 and they had agreed to wait till Oct. 2009 to file. So what is the problem? Should I get any more involved? Send him packing? The niece and bf have been here many times in the past and even recently, eating, playing in the pool and having me drive them here and there (pre-natal visits, shopping, etc) The bf even dropped off a collection of buttonless pants to be mended. All the sudden, since Mom is now out of jail, they are acting as if I stole her man and she is the wounded party, even though its not true. Since I have done nothing so far, other than a little kissing and hugging, should I walk away? The wife called 5x this morning, sent a nasty comment through myspace to me and even had her 22 yo son (ny niece's bf) write a gut wrenching letter, saying how sick we made him (he didn't think so when he had me drive him and pregger girl to the hospital for the finding out the baby's sex on Monday). What should I do?

Update:

His son is the one who sent a letter to me this morning, after insisting on Monday I go with him and my niece to his work to tell him he was having a grandson (they have been over here for dinner, playing in the pool and listening to him play songs on his guitar for me) and they said they thought of introducing us last year, when he asked his wife for a divorce, because all he did was sit on the couch watching MSNBC and playing his guitar, that is, until he met me. The wife left him 5 years ago, she hasn't lived with him since then, had sex with him, or even given him more than a headache since she left.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I'm glad you found out early on, about the "baggage" he has!

    Move on and enjoy our life!

    To be with him, will mean more stress, turmoil, & unhappiness!

    good luck to ya!

  • 1 decade ago

    No matter how bad she is, they still see her as mom. He is still dad and married. This is affecting the family and could get very ugly. Its best to leave him alone until something more permanent is set up. Preferably a divorce. Talk to him about this and come to some agreement. You can still use him as the handyman but try to stay away from him.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Cut ties with that idiot. Don't let someone treat you like that.

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