CLICK PLEASE: How can I convince my mom to let me stay homeschooled?

It is hard for us to tell you how to convince your mother because you haven't really told us why she wants you to go back to school, other than "I can't do it anymore."

It sounds like either she can't handle having you home all the time or she can't handle being responsible for your education. Can you clarify with her exactly what she finds overwhelming? If she is depressed or ill, she may just feel overwhelmed by the constant presence of another human being in the house, and need some time alone. If that is the case, if there is some way that you could do your work at a friend's house, at a homeschool co-op meeting, or at the library, to give her some time to herself, she might be willing to relent.

If she doesn't feel that she can continue to find resources for you and plan out your curriculum, grade your work, answer your questions, keep your records and transcripts, etc., then she might be willing to let you enroll in an online program that does those things for her, or she might be willing to let you take on more responsibility for those sorts of things yourself to the extent possible. My son is a little younger than you are, but he is responsible for keeping his own log of the assignments he completes, and he uses a lot of software or online coursework that provides immediate grading and feedback, so I only have to help him out when the explanations he can access on his own are not adequate, which is not all that often. We have found the National Repository of Online Courses http://www.hippocampus.org/ to be very helpful. We also like http://www.youtube.com/edu , and the Annenberg Foundation's http://www.learner.org/

Good luck.

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Lupus is a very serious illness, and it sounds like your mother is having a lot of problems as a result of it. She may be worried that her health and your father's health are so poor that they will not be able to keep up with what they need to do for you, or she may even be afraid that either she or your father might die. She may want you to go back to school so that you develop a network of friends and adults outside the family who could support you emotionally and help you out in the event that their health gets worse. These things are hard to think about, and scary both for the children and for the adults facing them, and your mom and dad probably wouldn't discuss this with you unless you specifically brought the possibility up. This might not be the case at all, but it is one possibility, and it could be part of the reason that your mom is not willing to discuss her reasons - she may not want you to worry.

Okay.... This may sound wierd but we r in the same situation- u c- I am 13 and I was teased out of 7th grade! It was horrible- but I sure you know that.... my mom wants to put me back in school but I NEED to stay!!!!! Start by writing her a letter or an email- "mom, this is something extremely important to me, please listen to my point of view, even if this doesn't change your mind I would appreciate it if you just read this for me." start like that- and continue explaining how you will excell as a homeschooler- give her some stat's- and do some reaserch- it is a fact that homeschoolers do better accademicly than both public and private schoolers, than say how important this is to you- I was so stressed out at school that It stunted my growth- in the time period I was homeschooled- I grew over 3 in! That was from may to June! now sweeten her end of the bargian- doing exctra chores and such- don't rush this letter- you mom needs to know how important this is you..... Also, there r ciriculums where you are shown a lesson on the computer or tv and than go along in you work book- it's like a teacher- so your mom will have to do ZIP! NADA! NOTHING! ZERO! GOOSE EGG! I have more ideas and I you want to here them check my profile and email me k? good luck and God bless, Casi

Where is your father? Is he around to discuss this with? If not, I suggest you write your mother a mature letter. Begging & pleading with your mother isn't going to work, to a mom a kid begging & pleading is like it is to you when your mother nags you. You will only further annoy her. I suggest you write a very mature letter of reasons of why you feel home schooling is more beneficial for your education. Do not write anywhere in the letter because it's what I want or I want pretty much anything but rather I think it's best because... Start your letter off with addressing her concerns first & then your humble opinion later on. Ask her why she feels it would be better for you to go to public school. Please don't whine, beg, cry, or plead, pull yourself together, be mature & act like an adult. Unfortunately for you, the decision is ultimately up to her but this is the best shot you have.

Also, maybe your mother feels overwhelmed, even if she's not helping you, the thought of being responsible for your education like another answerer said may still be a lot of weight on her especially when she has other children. Ask her if there is anything wrong & of course she may not tell you because it's none of your business but it will at least show her that you care & then ask if there is something that she needs help with. Like cleaning, watching your siblings for a little bit so she can rest, making dinner, etc... Again do it in a meaningful mature way, not a butt kiss way.

Has she had a baby recently or any mental illness that you know of or is she just physically ill?

maybe she doesnt have the money? if that is the case, then there is really nothing you can do, unless make some money on your own, i know my son, who is 13 owns an online bussiness (kinda) doing various thing on the internet, like he made a website and put ads on it, the website was really popular, so he go lots of money from ads, the check came in my name of course, but the money was his... he also learned programming and he can make programs, games, etc. and sells them, if you get all A's then doing this won't be a problem for you, he makes sites with Adobe Dreamweaver and WYSIWYG web builder, downloads free templates online. if you know how to work a computer then your good to go, just search C++ tuturial to learn C++ and make money programming, lots of oppitunites on the web for side jobs for younger people who can't get real jobs, if you know alot about computers you can make a free computer service site, add a chat software to your site, and people come to your site and ask about various computer problems / questions. if you want to do any of this stuff then message me, I will help you and provide free unlimited hosting till you get money. but you also will need to put the check into someone's name who has a bank account... if your mom doesnt need money, then, like other people say, maybe just tell her you will go to the library, a friends house, etc. instead of being there all the time. if it is money, i found that Pearblossom is the cheapest school I've seen, but I'm not sure it's the cheapest, but its certainly the best. The stuff that they cover is great, its not too much, and it teaches kids what they need to know, not all this other junk. it is online, or textbooks, but they grade it for you and everything, all your mom needs to do is pay, really. :)

Someone already mentioned online school--have you considered that? Maybe your mom doesn't feel like you are getting what you need academically without her guidance and a real curriculum. There are several online schools that provide a real curriculum, and are fully accredited, regular, 'real" schools. There's also the K-12 online school plan in many states. Online school could be a compromise between you and your mom, as it isn't really 'homeschooling', but it IS school at home.

i know how you feel..i was in 7th grade this year (last day was today) and i had SO much drama this year it was crazy..so...i wanted to do homeschooling because i got made fun, didnt have enof friends, and lost my best friend...but my parents couldnt home school me..so i just stayed true to myself and i made new friends..and i told ym mom to call the conselour and tell him about the bullies..and things got better..but the point im trying to make is..if your mom cant home school you..going back wont be as bad as you think :] you will make friends..and tell your mom if you have bullies and stuff :] hope this helped :D

Edit: write a list of all the reasons you like homeschooling and why you dont wanna go back..then read it to her..and talk about it with her :D?

I have been homeschooling my daughters for 2 years and I just love it.Best decision I ever made!! I know my kids are getting a better education at home, the public schools are terrible now-the violence, drugs and teachers that just don't care-most teachers are there just to get their pay and could care less about the kids.

Maybe for some reason your mother feels that she needs her own time at home alone again. See if you can talk to another adult and explain how you feel. Or write to your mother so that you can explain how you feel without getting emotional about it. Also, call the school that you would be going to and talk to a guidance counselor and get their advice.

Were you bullied at school? If so, make sure that you tell another adult and this is addressed immediately.

Good luck.

First of all I want to say that I am a mother of 3, and all 3 of my kids were home schooled for the exact reasons you don't want to go to a public school! I didn't want my kids exposed to punk ***, ghetto, mean kids, that have no manners! All 3 of my kids grades improved dramatically within a short period of time when they were removed from a public school! I am totally supportive of home schooling!

Well if she says that she can't do it anymore try an online program. There are tons out there. I know a couple people who do The Morning Star Academy and love it!!! Hope this helps.