Spouse lying about drugs?

well i wouldn't be with him. if he gets busted you can get in trouble too. he gets angry when you confront him what if he's under the influence and wigs out on you. dump him sweetie. you don't need him.

Serious problem - He's an addict and not ready to quit using or admit the extent of the problem. And addicts lie - just a fact. You can try to control him but that will only work for a limited amount of time. (it's called co-dependence). You can try to help him, but that will only work when he's ready. And when he is ready he will need help. However you may not be able to wait for him to become ready.

So - first, know in your mind and heart that this is not your fault, no matter what he says (and at some point he will blame you, I guarantee it). Next, get help for yourself. Alanon, counseling, something that will help you understand what this is all about and how to deal with it. You need support, and information. You can get both. Learn the language - you can learn to be supportive of him without being enabling - but again, he must be ready to stop. There is a big difference between being supportive when and addict happens to be sober (enabling) and being supportive of an addict in sobriety (when he's ready and trying to quit). Finally, don't let this go on too long. (Although I can't say how long is too long.) You're young, you have a whole life ahead of you. If you wait too long for him to come around, if he's not willing to try - one day you'll look back and ask yourself "where did my life go?" Also, this could lead to so much damage emotionally and financially. If he goes down the slippery slope he could take you with.

Best of luck - my heart goes out to you.

This is what drug users do. Lie lie lie. About everything.

I suggest you prepare for the worst. Your husband has a problem which they likely will not conquer. Get your finances frozen asap so that he can't drain every bit of life away that you have left.

EDIT I didn't say leave him. I said prepare for the worst. You can attempt to help him through this, but you MUST keep in mind that this is a battle he very well could lose. You do NOT want to lose it with him.

I commend you for trying to help him through this, but too many people have wasted YEARS with a "I won't do it again" over and over. You need to demand an end to it and leave if he doesn't follow suit. Drug test him if you have to. In fact, I recommend it.

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It is serious and you need to leave him now maybe after 3-5 years if you know for a fact he's quit you could get back together my guess is once you get rid of this guy you won't want him or he's lies back in your life best of luck p.s. be strong

Involve the police. Tell them about the house your husband took you to. If you don't have the heart to tell them about your husband then make him choose between rehab or divorce. You and the kids, if there are any, don't need this s*** at all. You are better off without him in your life.

i would tell him its me or the drugs and i would wait about a day or too to see if he has still been taking money or if he seems high.. and if so i would be gone.. and you need to leave drugs are not something you want to go around.. good luck

You need to tell him he needs to get some help or u r gonna walk away...You don't want to put yourself through that life style its unsafe and not healthy..

please, get counseling, your husband well never give up his drug addiction, it's his form of escaping reality, and his using it to make excuses, drug addicts are the worlds biggest liar, they can run up huge financial problems and you well end up paying for it in the long run, both physical and mental.

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