When is it best to walk away?

since u have kids with him he will be in your life for quite some time, but it doesn't mean u have to stay married to a man who shows u no respect, or puts u last. i would talk to him first, unless u fear him and your abused. sometimes when a man is faced with loosing his family he may make some changes, then again he may not care at all.

Well I understand where your coming from If your talking abouat leaving Do you:

# 1 have money to live on until you get a job?

# 2 Are you trained for any kind of employment?

# 3 Can you live on your salary?

# 4 Do you have reliable babysitting. a 3 year old and a18 month old need supervision. You can't work without child care.

# 5 Do you have reliable transportation? Friends may not mind helping you out the first few times, But after that...

# 6 Do you have an emergency person To take over inf you are sick or disabled?

That's about all I can think of off the top of my head. If you don't have these things work toward arranging for them.

Best of everything. It's a tough row to hoe.

Not yet.You tell him it is time for a marriage counselor or a divorce lawyer he can choose one.The kids need a father and I bet if he were asked, he could tell some things on you hon.In most cases it is NOT "all the man's fault".Or all just one person's for that matter, it is usually a little of both.You show him you mean business about the divorce he may buck at first but chances are if he loves you and the kids at all, he will do what it takes to keep you all together, sometimes us men are stubborn and hard headed and you have to show us you mean business instead of waiting until you are not willing to work at it any more.

IF counseling has been tried and hasn't worked, nor does he care to, your best bet is to leave. I tell my daughter, always have enough money to leave because the worst feeling in the world is wanting to leave and unable to afford it. However, tho you may think and even accomplish to break up and divorce, you still have the drama of dealing with visitation and child support. Sometimes, as the rich say, it's cheaper to stick it out than it is to divorce, however, this is about your happiness as well as the welfare and welbeing of your girls who are seeing this negativity taking place. Good luck and God speed.

About a year before you asked this question.. I would caution you against starting a life with "just" you and the girls. Did you mean you would exclude your husband? You shouldn't exclude him from seeing the girls, unless he doesn't care. But if are truly unhappy, you should leave. Best of luck to you.

Well im a teenager, and obviously im not in a commitment. But, im talking about your girls. I cry myself to sleep when my parents have a fight, because sometimes i wonder if i was the reason. I don't want to go through my parents having a divorce, but i want them to stay happy. My parents love eachother, dont get me wrong.. but sometimes they just fight. I think you should talk to your husband, and no excuses. You should say, think about our children, and say we can work this out. If he doesnt except you, dont get me wrong, but he is an A**

A long time ago. When a relationship is causing u more stress than it is giving u joy it is time to take action. See if u can get him into marriage or couples counseling. If he refuses to seek help then u leave knowing that u gave it your best shot.

I pretty much agree with the first person. He may not be making you happy right now, but legally you can't just walk off into the sunset with his kids, unless he terminates his rights to them (which is rare).

It's also not fair to deprive kids of their father, unless he's abusive or dangerous to them in some way.

It's understandable that you're not that happy, but you need to think it through carefully and decide if it's worth working through these issues or not. But do be realistic - chances are he'll want to be part of his kids' lives.

Now is your best time you did your part sweetheart you tried and tried to make it work and sometimes it doesn't and that's what it looks like and now its just not about you but im sure your kids see this and hear it y'all deserve better and the best don't ever let someone run all over you especially when your doing your part people like him dont deserve people like you dont waste your life being unhappy youll regret it later on. you just have to be strong right now and have the will to leave. the more you stay it will only get worse

The best time to walk away is when you decide to walk away. Once you make that decision, don't second guess yourself...start walking. If you are asking on the board,. then you have not come to the realization or the decision that it is time.