Dealing with a teenager who's developed an attitude.?

You have your own solution.

Let him find his own way around. Let him fend for himself. Wash his own clothes. All the things you do, let him do.

See if he can do it, or if he needs his mommy. If he does need you? Oh well. Lay the law down first. You hold the cards, not him.

Hi honey I feel for you I really do.

You've been very good to him, better than most infact, and now is the time for you step down and start letting him take care of himself otherwise he'll always behave like this.

I agree you should stop doing things for him totally. I certainly don't think you should be taking him to work and collecting him. If he's old enough to have a job then he can find his own way there. And I think you should charge rent. Doesn't have to be very much if he's on a low wage but even he's doing everything for himself, you need to show him he still needs to contribute towards running costs of the house, rent, water rates etc.

This will come as a shock to him and maybe make him see that his behaviour is way out of line. If he want's you to act nice, then he needs to act nice too. Simple as that. I know some people have said 'hes a teenager it's what he's meant to do' but really, it's totally disrespectful and you shouldn't put with it. He may have been loving and appreciative before but that doesn't mean he can act this way now.

Start treating him like an adult and leave him to fend for himself while you live your life, and enjoy it! Best Wishes

Wow, are you my mom? joking.

I'm 17.. and that's exactly how I act towards my mom.

She's also widowed and my sister just recently moved out due to a unhealthy relationship.

But what you said above pretty much summed up my relationship with my mother.

It's not that I hate her, I really do love her and care for her.

I think it's just at this time we're growing out of the mother's nest.

We're growing up we don't want to be spoon fed and babied.

It's that sad time when the little boy you once knew is now finally becoming a man.

What I'd appreciate from my mother would be some privacy. I don't like being bothered, I have other things to worry about in life and quite frankly being babied is hell a lot irritating. We're in high school, it may seem stupid and pointless but there's a lot of things going on in our heads aside from education, such as high school drama.

And no, don't ask him to talk about it.

My mom is the last place where I'd go to confront my problems.

It's a pride issue.

If your son isn't respecting you then you should show some control in the relationship.

Get mad, throw a fit, ground him, break something, be a bad girl.

If you really want to embarrass him though, try catching him while masturbating. That will surely make him respect you.

Anyways, try ignoring him. Then he'll probably get curious and want to know what's wrong. Maybe he'll even get clingy and throw in a hug to cheer you up.

I wish I was taken care by A mother Like you .. I lived alone these years , The relationship between my Father And I .. sigh.. Its better not be recalled,

Anyways, he is taking things far too granted.. yesh , do conveniently forgot to pick him up, take him to work, wash his clothes, and be on his own , he wanted to be ignored, right? He still hasn't felt how it feels to be ignored, to be alone , to be not cared .. and yes , i am saying all this because I am very jealous of your son .. But he must realize what he is doing , I know how hurtful it is to be treated like that by your son , because My father's been treating me that , since I was small , I am a bad luck bringer according to him , and Now i live in a rented house , with a roomate, I work on my own , and I repaired the door lock yesterday !! yes i am proud!

maybe he is being influenced by some new friends he had made , but dont worry it wouldnt last long ,

Your situation is similar to my mom and brother's my brother is 19 and he is nearly everything you say about your son, but a bit different he has too much of a social life, he doesnt care what anyone thinks and just aaargh it makes me feel sad that we both have these problems

What my mum did is pack his bags and left it ouside his room one day, and she said, if you caary on klike this, take your bags now, and get the **** out.

And he's matureed up a lil bit but he knows my mum is serious,

Talk to him, maybe he's troubled because of what happend to his father, dioes he know the full story, i'm 14 and if my father died i'd like to know what happend...

Take care and good luck,

Sounds pretty normal to me - after all what is the purpose of a teenager without attitude

But you need to get a life of your own and stop being his slave. He's old enough to largely look after himself and you really need to start moving on before he moves out.

It all sounds quite normal to me.

Sounds like it is time you picked up with your own life again, found a partner and moved on. Your son is a man now.

Talk to him, straight up. Tell him, in a non-confrontational manner that he is being slightly less happier. Tell him his attitude is getting dry, and that you want him to cheer up a bit. Say, that your getting tired, and you'll need help around the house, and that just all little things matter.

enable him. the faster he gets his coronary heart stomped on the greater constructive. merely save him busy. the fewer time he has on his hands the faster he will get better. precise now, he's have been given this great gaping wound and he retains finding out on at it because of the fact he's have been given no longer something to do. and you recognize what happens as quickly as we %. at our wounds. SCARS