my boyfriend watches porn?!!?

Why do you feel violated when he watches porn? What makes you think that way? Why do you feel that it's wrong? Most people wouldn't think that porn is cheating because it's just looking at naked pictures of two people having sex. It doesn't mean that he's physically cheating on you. You should try watching porn with him. Then maybe you'll change your mind about porn.

How is porn making him a horrible person? And why would he apologize for something that he enjoys doing? He doesn't have to apologize.

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Most guys watch porn or look at some type of adult material. Its not that you are any less, it's just that guys like to masturbate and get off. The way he masturbates is by watching porn. You're being judging in a way, because he shared something with you and instead of trying to discover why he watches it you immediately decided he shouldn't be doing it because it's not "normal" in your eyes. The fact is guys like to look at naked women and porn because of the way they are. Not every guy does it but if you don't want to deal with it and refuse to make a compromise than maybe you need to break up with him.

It is not good, or normal, or harmless.

Just because most men, and some women, watch it is certainly not evidence that it is okay.

It is a problem that can be worked out. Make your position known, but be tactful and as understanding as you can.

There is a lot of information available on the internet about the negative side of pornography.

Here is one clip from the link below.

Michigan state police detective Darrell Pope found that in 41 percent of the 38,000 sexual assault cases in Michigan (1956 1979), pornographic material was viewed just prior to or during the crime. This corroborates with research done by psychotherapist David Scott who found that "half the rapists studied used pornography to arouse themselves immediately prior to seeking out a victim."(17)

As you will see on this forum, the common world view is that it is "normal". Common and normal are 2 different things. It's common for a marriage to fail, does that mean it is normal? Porn is a serious problem in a relationship, I should know it destroyed my marriage because I believed it was "normal". It's not unreasonable for you to be upset about this, and I would be having 2nd thoughts about marrying this guy cuz it's a lot easier to get out now than once you are married with kids. Don't let the world view get you down, it's ok for you to have a problem with this.

Seriously, it's not a big deal. Every guy watches porn. A guy jerking off to porn is a normal as the sun rising every morning.

BTW don't listen to the women saying to tell him to get rid of it, he'll just start to hide it from you. At least right now he's being open and honest with you. It's better to know about it then to find hidden pics and Dvds.

You need to lighten up. Why don't you watch it with him and then have your own fun with him.

Could you be any more insecure with your self and relationship? You really should work on YOUR issues first before you have a serious relationship.

Look a lot of guys watch porn. Its not about YOU. Its sex and its fantasy. Get over it and loosen up. NO ONE likes to be told what to do. And NO ONE likes to have someone make them feel bad about something I guarantee he has been doing for years before he knew you existed!

Did you ever think the sexual confidence the women in porn have is a turn on to him? Maybe you should get some.

He could just go have sex with another woman every time he's horny and you're unavailable. I don't think that's the better option. Some guys just don't have a very good imagination when it comes to masturbating, so they find a visual. You could tape yourself doing to naughty, or leave him photos. He might leave the porn behind. Try to turn this into a positive. It might help him feel closer and more sexual towards you. Trust me though, telling him what to do and what not to do will probably put a strain on your relationship. Let him make the decision. If you don't like it, move on.

I understand that you feel this way because in all honesty, I would too but realize that everyone watches porn, almost everyone anyway. even girls.

but if this really bothers you to the point where you can't stop thinking about it, just tell him how you feel. its always good to let him know. DONT try to control him or force him not to. let him make his own choices, but if he really likes you, he'll respect your feelings. you should be more important to him than phony girls getting screwed.

May be he likes to watch things you wouldn't do for him, so he has to watch someone else live his fantasies. Start by asking him what would he like you to do sexually so he doesn't have to watch porn. And if you don't want to do what he wants, then just part ways. You find a porn free guy and he can jerk off all he wants watching porn with his new girl.