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Anonymous asked in Social SciencePsychology · 1 decade ago

Im feeling abit depressed about alot change that seems to be happening in my life?

I recently left high school, which means i won't see alot of my friends for a while or some people ever again.

Also, i have to say goodbye to afew teachers who've made a big influence on my life and its difficult for me to come to terms with the fact i'll probably never see them again.

Since leaving high school, ive noticed afew of my friends keep acting quite childish...im trying not be uptight about things, but its difficult to laugh along when the jokes are at your expence...

Im starting college soon and it scares me alot, i won't know hardly anyone there either and sometimes im quite shy so im worrying about making new friends.

All of this combined together is really getting me down.

Any words of advice? :)

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I will start by saying that your concerns are perfectly normal, and anyone who values friendships goes through that phase.

    Eventually, you'll realize that it's just that: a phase. It will be clear that the phase is a filter that reveals the individuals who are true friends and those who are just there because they were stuck in the same place as you.

    When you set foot in college you might be tempted to focus on your studies and planning your future that you forget to actually socialize. Over the course of four years, you will end up socializing and knowing who is worth holding on to and who is a waste of time.

    As college graduation draws near, you will have a fairly clear picture of your group of friends, and will be surprised to realize that you will go through another phase of filtering your "friends."

    As for fun and childishness, it was a source of entertainment in what would otherwise have been very bland and dull situations. A little play can work a lot in your favor. You should learn to smile and laugh at the little jokes, or make it clear that you don't appreciate it.

    Hope that helped.

    PS: Arrange some events outside the normal circles of interactions. From experience, I can say that a well-arranged barbecue can go a long way to having people lower their guards and speak freely.

    Source(s): Graduate from high school years ago, and college less than a month ago.
  • bone
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Yes it does sound quite scary, could this be the fact that you are worried about how people will expect you to act around them?

    As you know you are at a new chapter in your life and your main concern should be the course you are doing, thinking of you fellow students too much will only distract you from the subjects you are studying.

    I'm certainly not an expert on this one but you have to be yourself.

    Who ever created you knows how mature you are in mind and will send you another teacher to bond with or maybe more than one.

    Do not worry you may not see it but there is some thing out there that loves you very much and is protecting you and knows your needs.

    Get ready for the good times.

  • 1 decade ago

    well u can always talk to your friends on the phone or computer as well as your teachers.u can pay them a visit every now and then too. i doubt that u will NEVER see them again...you'd be surprised at how many people from high school u run into later on in life. college can be scary if u dont know anybody but believe me u are not gunna be the only person who is a freshman and doesnt know anybody.startasking someone if u can sit by them in the cafeteria...i know it sounds cheesy but alot of people do and make really good friends.hope this helps : )

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I dont have much life experience so I might not be of much help, but If you're the butt of your immature friends' jokes, then maybe a new school and an opportunity for great new friends is a good thing.

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  • 1 decade ago

    College is an important step in your life and it's natural to feel a bit anxiuos about it! Things change in life and we must live with it! A new beginning could mean good things for you! Heads up and dream about your future!

  • 1 decade ago

    It sounds as if you don't like "change" much. Don't be afraid of it. Sometimes change is a good thing. You've got a lot of experiences ahead of you. Try to enjoy them and try not to worry. Everything is going to be okay.

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