Caught my kids smoking pot?

**** happens.

you can't blame them.

first of all i would just like to say that im very sorry for your loss, i cant even imagin your pain. I can understand your oldest sons reason for doing the drugs, no reason should justify doing this illegal act but i do sympathis with him. But bringing the younger kids into it was a big mistake by him and i think we can both agree that he made a bad choice. I think what you did was good as far as punishment, they will learn there lessons. And for the "hating" you part he doesnt actually hate YOU he hates the situation, and who can blame him, hes lost his father and hes just looking for any escape he can find, unfortunatly he chose an illegal way. A child can never actually hate there parents, although he may say it and you may believe it, its not true. Give it some time, things will get better i promise =)

You poor lady. First of all, I am very sorry for your loss. Your husband's death I am sure has been very hard on you. It sounds like you are doing the right things in regards to your children. Counseling is definitely needed in this case I think. Your oldest son sounds like he has alot of built up anger and sadness, and no way to get it out except by using drugs. You have to stop this!!

As a former drug user I will say this may be alot harder than it sounds. If he is already experimenting with harder drugs than just pot, you may need to put him in a rehab program.

Your younger children seem like they are pretty open with you and that is good. You definitely need to do the counselor though. At the very least a grief counselor.

I wish you the best of luck with your babies. God Bless.

I feel like that's a little harsh... If you're taking them away from positive influences by taking away their cell phones, what will happen?? their brother was the one who gave them the pot so I don't understand why your daughter should have to break up with her boyfriend and not have contact with her friends. I think a simple long grounding should be enough... you never know how much worse you are making it for them, especially if they are dealing with the death of their father. It sounds like your son needs help more than a severe punishment.

First off you sound like a good mother. I would go talk to the councilor first before the kids. After the councilor talked to the kids then I would set another meet with who you are seeing and see what is remanded. And then go from there. I would make a special point of talking to your councilor to see if your oldest needs more help such as rehab.

good luck!

i think your doing a great job! your punishments seam reasonable, but maybe only one month not two. counseling is a good idea. kids will smoke pot, especially to get over problems like there dad dying. pot is sort of a normal teenage thing, but cocaine is not, you need to have a serious conversation about that with your son.

What you did is good so far. But you shouldn't have made your daughter break up with her boyfriend. You have no right to do that anymore. She is her own person for THAT kind of stuff.

Its a good idea to go into therapy, and keep a watch on your son. Spend more time with him.

okay first of all i want to tell you that you are a good parent and even good parents kids screw up some time.

go to therapy TOGETHER, not indivisual.

and have a family dinner so your forced to talk to them even if the dont want to, just force it on them.

theyre pissed that their dad died

but who cares

Ive smoked pot before

i got high too

nothing happened to me

and

just let them loose

i mean

their just kids

relax, marijuana is NOT BAD. look it up, it's not half has bad as alcohol so calm the **** down.