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My ex is now posting on my friends facebook page and she almost never did before. Why?
My ex and I split at beginning of April. She dumped me and I deserved it as I was non-commital, had broken up with her twice (due to stupid reasons and each time we reconciled) and I didn't make the effort required. I was all confused and an idiot.
She now has a new guy and started to see him just 2 WEEKS after we split) - it was an 8 months relationship and I tried and tried to win her back by calls, texts and e-mails and not only did that fail but I pushed her further away and she can't stand me now and says I had no dignit in how I handled the situation. The 2 weeks until she started seeing somebody else is what hurt me unbelievably as I am still very much in love with her, I realise the mistakes I made and just so desperately wanted to win her back and finally become the boyfriend she thought I was after the first 2 months we went out together.
I have not contacted her for 3 weeks now (I have deleted her mobile number and don't e-mail her now) but I left it by sending her a letter to her flat offering a sincere apology for how I behaved post break-up in failing to handle her with a new guy. She unsurprisingly did not respond.
The thing that has got me so confused is that one of my friends she has as a friend on facebook and I have noticed she has started to post "I likes" to innocuous posts he makes and she also comments occasionally. This I find very hurtful as she knows I access my friends page regularly and post on it myself (for laughs).
Why is she doing this?
The only time she had posted on his page before was back in January when she wished my friend a happy new year (again, she has only met him twice and they won't meet in the future).
My friend has access to her page (I don't want to know what she is doing now) and he has confirmed she is now in a realtionship with someone else. He refuses to remove her as he doesn't see why he shoul which has also annoyed me somewhat.
Is she messing with me by posting on my friends site - even when she now has a new man?
She asked me to forget about her but I can't do that when she is posting and I don't want to elbowed off of facebook so that I don't see her posts. I think it is exceptionally cruel that she is doing this and it annoys me a great deal.
Is she doing this innocently or is she playing with my head...?
5 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
I think its a ploy to deliberately attract your attention. She maybe wants to make you jealous (in a very petty, self-absorbed way) by getting into your friends and showing them, and inevitably you, that she appears to have moved on and is happy without you. She knows you go on your friend's page and you'll obviously see what she's written.
Source(s): Been there, done that. - 1 decade ago
I used to have a lot of questions running in my mind when i went through those break up back in early 2000. Its hard for me to accept others explanation and when i look back i was able to see things at a better perspective although i will never have the complete picture.
i would say that perhaps she is trying to get to know more people, ie as friends even though she got a new bf. its hard for you to take it since you get to read her comment on your friend's face book. you have to learn to let go. when she lost her faith in you, its hard to get her back. its normal for people to seek new relationship in order to overcome the emotional pain they need to go through.
its better for you to lead a new life, the sooner the better. at least you will be able to start afresh. my 2nd ex gf (and 1st) are married about 2 to 3 years ago. they never ask me back. my current gf loves me dearly and i am grateful for just that.
good luck.
p/s : when a girl hardened her heart and no longer want a relationship, its hard to get her back. this is because she knew the same problem will happen again and lead to nowhere. they would rather go for someone else. remember the best is yet to come.
- SarahLv 45 years ago
The number of women I've met who were happy with themselves .. I can count on one hand. .... So I understand it .. your engaged to the man you love, and have had two children with. Yet you still compare your self to a woman he once dated. You will not have a happy marriage, you will live a stressful life, you will not be a good mother or wife...until you get over your confidence issue. You have to get help or suck it up and see your own value .. and if it were not her, it would be another person .. someone he works with, a sister, or one of your friends..... Your avoiding your own short comings and dealing with them by blaming and focusing on another person. Learn how to make you a better mother, a better partner ... and a happier you. If anyone compares them selves to others .. .. they will find differences ... stop looking outward, and look within. Good luck
- 1 decade ago
I think you are reading too much into it. I don't think it's a big deal. Try to let it go. Try to stop thinking about her so much. You need to go out and get her off your mind. She might be trying to get you jealous and you know what...she's succeeding. You are sooooo wrapped up in this, you even posted this question.
Try to go out, have fun, go to the beach, the mall, take up a hobie, anything to keep you busy. If it's meant to be, be patient, maybe you get an apportunity to be with her in the future but in the meantime, try to move on. Maybe you meet another person who makes you even happier?
Good luck!
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