TEN POINTS - Is my relationship going to get better?

Well first y dnt u go buy some lingerie and try to see if maybe he responds to it u get me? maybe he just wants to add new stuff to ur relationship. Take the initiative and tell him "hey babe lets..... " go watch a movie, go to dinner or something so it can show to him that u still care about both him and the relationship. Win him over with the sweet simple stuff, make him lunch or breakfast or dinner, tell him you love him. just try...

If not, no matter how much he doesnt like it, a relationship is two people and you have to sit down and talk. He needs to be sincere and tell you what is going on. If he doesnt want to be with you or what. You have to tell him that it is hurting you and that it isnt fair for you to feel that way or for him to make you feel that way.

If he doesnt want to talk or he refuses or shuts you out, then im sorry but i think that means that its over. its not fair for u to have to live without knowing how he really feels.

Yet you try and try to keep the relationship strong, but if he doesnt try as well then there is no point.

Yes it would be hard to get over him but if there is no love then why be with eachother, your just wasting eachothers time. You can find someone better, and you cant see urself with no one but him because all you know IS HIM.

And if u cant kick him out, give him a period of time in which he can move out, a week two weeks, a month. But tell him that you are serious.

But seriously, you guys have to talk. there is no other way. And you have to explain to him that if he wants to keep u in his life then he has to grow some balls, be a man and talk to you. if he doesnt then i think that means that he doesnt want to be together anymore.

But from what i've read i dont think there is any chance of things changing if u guys break up and even try to get back together. Well he has to be commited to change for you.

Im sorry, its not fair that you have to go through this, im sure you'll find someone better and hope i helped.

♥Turtle

Get out now while you are still young enough to enjoy your life,before you end up with a baby then you are stuck with him for the rest of your life.Don't sell yourself short.You deserve better than that.Obviously he has ether lost interest in you for whatever reason,and I'm sure it's not you.Or he has decided it's perfectly alright to take you for granted.If there is nothing there,there is nothing to save.Don't waist your life on someone who does not care about you.If it is your place,tell him to get out.If it is his,just pack your things while he is at work and leave and DON'T LOOK BACK!.Any man who does that is ether very selfish or just plain S---.You don't need to make yourself available for him.If he cared about you he would pay more attention to you and would not curse at you for disturbing his nap.The answer to all of your questions could be yes but none of them have anything to do with you.If he can do that and not feel bad,you don't need him.The best way to get over him is to remember how he treated you,after that,it's a piece of cake.You said it yourself,you have your whole life ahead of you.Don't waist it with him.If he asks you why you are leaving just say,what do you care,you don't want to hear it any way.The temper will just get worse from here.You're better off getting a brother or the police to help you get your things out.I wish you the best but your future will be much brighter and last longer without him.Good luck.

I have the exact same problem with my partner even to the point where I can't kick him out clearly because he moved states to be with me and has nowhere else to go.

We came up with a plan that we'd go out on a date once a fortnight (as we both work a lot) that was about 4 months ago and we've only been about 3 times but they were good.

Even if he doesn't want to talk to you, you should make him listen to what you have to say. Tell him how you feel and ask him if he still wants to be with you. If talking to him doesn't work then trying writing it down and giving it to him. There has to be some way you can get what it on your chest out in the open. It isn't fair on you and your health to hold it in and no man should make you cry.

Good luck.

Okay...If you don't want to kick him out then give him some space and let him see what he's going to miss. Sometimes people just need space. All relationships have ups and downs. It doesn't mean that you just have to give up. Time and space usually comes up with the best solutions. Is he cheating? Maybe. Is he bored? Maybe.

Do you have a job? If not, get a job and get out of the house. Join a gym. Working out will get you out of the house (thus creating space), make you look and feel better, and most importantly relieve stress. If you have pictured your future with him, now is the time to also picture a happy future with him.

I hope this helps.

Well he's being a typical male and then he's also being a real jerk. I'm assuming since he hates hearing you "complain" or hear you talk about what's wrong there's no way he would understand how you feel and then maybe compromise his behaviour to meet you in the middle. He may not be cheating but if he feels that you're constantly nagging he may feel like moving on that much faster. I'm going through the same thing. It'll be hard but you need to sit him down and tell him what's what and he will either listen to you or not and if not, it's probably best if you left him.

I'm a guy. It sounds like he's tired of the relationship and of being with you all the time. Living together is totally different from seeing eachother or dating. I dated a girl one time and I was nuts about her. Couldn't be with her enough. Thought of her 24/7. I asked her to move in with me. After 2 weeks, she got on my nerves for every single thing you can imagine. She also got demanding, required attention from me at home all the time, kept asking questions about everything I did. I got sick of her. I started to shine her on, not touch her, not have sex with her, not pay attention, so that she'd get tired and leave. Well, she left. I was relieved. I got tired of hearing her voice. I got tired of seeing her 24/7. I got tired of her being there, because I didn't want a full-time, committed relationship. I couldn't do anything without her being on my case. I lost my space, I lost my own time, I lost my privacy. I felt like she was a "ball and chain". This was way back when, and I was a total jerk. But, I was young, and that's what a lot of young guys do, until they get older. Have I changed? Yes. But only since I got older and I've been around the block a few times. I may sound like a real ***, but I'm being honest.

Y can't you kick him out?

Ok, I now it feels like you won't have that same feeling again but you will and with someone that won't put you through this. You shouldn't have to beg him to talk or anything like that. If you live together and he is doing this to you maybe he is cheating. Any guy who doesn't want to have sex, and ignores you is more than likely cheating. If you don't have kids there is no point to putting effort into it if he isn't responding. Just drop it before it makes you more insecure. Why stay with someone who doesn't appreciate you?!

-Make him coffee

-Make his lunch

-Give him a massage

-Watch something he likes

-Start a conversation that he would be intrested in

-Buy him something for both of you ;)

Hey,

From what you described, there isint much you can do. if you tryed anything with your boyfriend, he dosen't sound willing to go though with it.

However, you have to understand that there are more people out there. if you don't see this going anywhere, then there is some one else who will be the one who you will be closer to. its just a matter of finding that person.

the longer you stay, the more it is going to hurt. end it. and get single, do what YOU want. don't have him holding you back. you sound like almost every guy's dream from what you have said. so you deserve better than what you have.

If you ever need anyone to talk to, Email or IM me at dks_tek1@yahoo.com

In the end, it dosent sound like it is going to work, its better to end it and hurt some now, than have it explode in a few months, or worse, you liveing a life you turely hate.

Hang in there.

-Tek

It can be a lot of different things... me & my bf have been together for 5 years now, we where starting to get that way about a year ago too. I started to get distant and do my own thing, once he saw he was going to loose me me did a complete 180. I know everyone is different, but, sometimes the spark gets put out but it's up to you to rekindle it. Buy a french maid outfit and see if that catches his attention, do sweet things and see if he does them in return. Be the most AMAZING girlfriend a guy could have, see if it changes him.

Best of luck to you :-)

i'm sorry but theres no other way to say it - the relationship is not going to imrpove. i understand that you don't want to hear that (i;m in a relationship at the moment and he is my future) perhaps you shold stop trying and then see if he tries to improve things, because if you're putting in all the effort then it is a pretty one-sided relationship. maybe wait and see if he comes to you instead of you doing the work and if he does perhaps it's not all bad, but if he doesn't perhaps it is time to find a new room mate. i'm sorry to hear abotu it and i hope it works out well for you :)