Is it cheating when your spouse knows you are having sex with someone else and is Ok with it?

It is adultery regardless of whether it is ok with your spouse or not.

"Be not deceived fornicators and adulterers GOD will judge".

If she knows but he doesn't know that she knows, and it is not an open marriage, then it is cheating. Only if they have agreed to an open marriage (meaning they are not committed to only having sex with each other) is it not cheating. A vow is made in marriage, so if one, the other or both break the vow, it is breaking a promise which is cheating because the vows set the basic rule for the marriage. Some people do get married with the intentions of it being an open marriage (where it is OK with both that either one or the other or both can "swing" if he or she wants to). In such marriages they marry mainly because they enjoy each other's company or their platonic relationship with each other more than with anyone else that they might consider for marriage. In some cases it is also for financial reasons, tax breaks, etc.. Also, it might start out as a closed marriage, but then they get the "seven year itch", and instead of divorcing they decide to declare the marriage to be open from that point on.

It can be. Just because the spouse SAYS he or she is ok with it doesn't mean they really are. The key here is communication.

If you and your spouse have a good, strong relationship and communicate well, then I don't think there's anything wrong with it. You need to set the ground rules (Is fluid exchange ok? How much time can be taken from your primary relationship to spend with this other person? How emotional can the relationship get?)

Basically, as long as there's no deceit involved, on any level, and you're communicating everything that's going on and getting consent for it all, it's fine.

Check out resources on polyamory (google it), there are heaps of people who have struggled with these sorts of issues and come up with some really good solutions.

The definition of cheating, is dishonesty.

If you both know about it, and are ok with it, then how is that dishonest? So it's not cheating.

Swinging is recreation. Like playing tennis, and once in awhile you might want to play pairs tennis instead of singles. Sex does not equal love. Sex with the one you love is the best there is, but recreational sex is fun as well, just without the emotional hook.

You are not cheating on your spouse because he/she agrees with it, but in my opinion you are still cheating on the relationship since you are diverting attention from the relationship with the spouse and giving it to another person. This weakens the bond since the one thing that makes a marriage bond special and unique from any other relationship is now being shared with a person or people outside of the marriage bond.

It is not cheating if your partner has full knowledge and consent. Remember, only you and your partner can define the rules for your relationship. No one else can. At the same time, you can't apply your rules to someone else's relationship.

It's still cheating. Whether the other person knows or cares it doesn't change the definition....

Just because people have a different opinion than yours doesn't mean they are wrong (thumbs down??)

I THINK U WANT OUT OF THIS LIFE STYLE, FOR U TO BE ASKING IF ITS RIGHT OR WRONG, U CAN GET HELP IF U REALLY WANT THIS TO STOP, PLZ BE CAREFUL AND FINE URSELF SUM HELP

if u have to ask ,u know its wrong