my best friend just got raped today....?

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What do I do? It was one of her guy friends that she was interested in, and she didn't want to have sex yet, but he did anyways, and she clearly said "NO" but he did it anyways. That's rape. I told her that, and she knows it. She won't tell an adult. I told her multiple times she has to, and she will regret it if she doens't tell an adult, and she just kept saying no. I asked whyand she said she doesn't feel comfortable. I said I understand, but she has to tell someone. I gave her the number for the Rape Crisis Center, but she said No. I asked if I could say something becuase I will if I have to, and she said No. She said her mom was asking why she was crying, and I told her to tell her and she said She can't. I kept repeating she has to tell an adult, and theres even places to call for that, but she kept saying no to it. I don't know what to do. 

I'm not going to say anything beucase I don't want her to get pissed at me. I want HER to say something. 
What do I do??

calmb4thestorm · Answer

you're being a friend right now and its very admirable...i commend you. I agree with you your friend needs to tell her mom or some adult that may be able to help her. She may be hesitant to say something because rape victims usually have a lot of things going on in their head and they don't want to say anything because they often feel like what happened to them is their fault but its not so she needs to tell someone. Give her a few days like two or three and if she still doesn't want to tell someone i would definitely have a conversation with her mom and let her know what happened believe me when i say your friends life depends on it. she may hate you at first for saying something but you could be saving your friends life. Please don't let her convince you to just forget about it no girl should have to go through that.

Anonymous · Answer

telling someone without consulting her is wrong. i know, i know, they all say to do something about it and just go behind her back, but you just cant do that to somebody you care about. offer to take her to a councilor, and have a chat about the whole situation with her. once shes let out her feelings with the person she trusts the most, then she'll find it easier to tell someone else. it is important that this happens quickly, in case the guy gets away and no one can catch him. just schedule a time somewhere private and outdoorsy, and give her the chance to vent her emotions

jasmith001 · Answer

You probably don't do anything.  Over half of girls don't report rape, ever.  My best advice, is to see if she would be willing to talk to me or someone else who deals with rape a lot.  We won't pressure her to tell anyone, but will instead give her a chance to talk and try to work through a lot of what she is feeling.  You can catch me on messenger - jasmith001.  Feel free to talk to me yourself too if you just want to understand more of what she is feeling.  Its hard for you to understand, but let her know you are there for her no matter what.

? · Answer

i went through the same thing except i was the victim... you have to get her to calm down and then, if u like it or not you have to tell someone, she may not like you for it... but in the long run she has to tell someone.. you have to tell her mum. after you get her calm and told someone, just hang out with her and help her get over it, i was 12 so my best friend rented movies and let me cry it all out, for 3 days... you just might have to be the bad guy. sorry.

good luck xx

Anonymous · Answer

Give it until Sunday. If she still resists to tell, you have to tell. Don't nag her about it, but on Sunday ask her again and if she says she won't or hasn't you tell. Even if it's your mom. She needs help and you wouldn't want her to be scarred for life would you? Unless she's lying and really did want sex, but I doubt that's it.

choirgirll!(: · Answer

i think you need to tell someone
you will be being a better friend to her by telling someone than not.
she could end up being pregnant or have an std and someone needs to know about what happened.
rape is illegal and if she didn't want it, it was clearly rape.
please be a good friend to your friend
she really needs it even if that is not what she wants

Forgetful · Answer

morons...a true friend will tell the police or the rape center...
god u guys who said wait til sunday and all that are idiots.
GO GET A RAPE KIT....ffs Do it before its too late...
Check if your pregnant too...Take the dayafter(or something) pill..

Btw if he puts on his condom with two hands...she could have gotten away...so its a pretty open shut case...she'll lose.(unless she was tied up and etc.)

And if he didnt have a condom on..well rape kit for evidence?

Chapo · Answer

you need to tell someone fast, she'll thank you later when shes gets over it. that mother F*cker belongs in jail. Don't worry he'll gets whats coming to him. Everyone know Rapes are the lowest thing to be in jail. THERE GOING TO RAPE HIS ***

mimi d · Answer

you need to say something tell your mom b/c she clearly needs your help and if someone don't do something she could have physical and psychological damage so go on n tell your parents so you could start helping her good luck

Anonymous · Answer

i know you really dont want to, but you have to tell an adult. whether its your mom or hers, you need to. she might be pissed at you now, but will definitely thank you later. she cant bring herself to do it because she is embarassed, so she needs someone to be strong for her and tell. please make sure you both stay away from him and take care of you and your friend.

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