i just found out i have genital herpes, now what?

Don't worry about it, I contracted genital herpes about a year ago, and i couldnt get it off my mind, i failed school, stopped seeing my friends, and went into a complete depression, but it only gets better.

Now, i hardly think of it, my sex life has not changed, i am with my boyfriend and we have sex 3-4 times a week, i am also on birth control so we dont really use condoms and he has still not contracted it.

I have only had 3 outbreaks, and the second one wasnt even close to as bad as the first.

If you have a good immune syster, then you could go YEARS without having another outbreak, in some cases, people might never have another one.

But are YOU sure that YOU have it, or just your boyfriend?

Do not automatically assume you contracted it if its only your boyfriend who got tested, as u just read, i have yet to pass it on to my boyfriend, so it is quite possible that you do not have herpes.

The best way to test is by testing the sore itself, many people will tell you to have a blood test, this is unreliable, the herpes virus is in all our bodies, its just a matter of triggering it, its just like chicken pox or cancer, everyone has it, so by having a blood test, you are 95% sure going to get a positive for herpes result.

Just make sure you practice safe sex if you are really scared, and honestly, yeah it sucks to have to say "I have herpes" but really... it could be so much worse, i missed out on a lot during the past year, i wish i could go back, its really not as bad as everything seems to think it is.

You will get through this!!

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Its just an irritating skin condition that the drug companys jumped on to scare the sh it outta everyone its not much different to coldsores on the mouth just because it's on the genitals this has over time built up the stigma to make one feel dirty but it just takes 1 partner to get herpes no matter who you are.Don't let it define who you are think positively and know at least you have not got something that could kill you ok maybe at first when you get outbreaks they may be frequent but over time this will get less and less you will go through some stages where you get down and angry but you will at some point accept it and move on so dont be to hard on yourself in these early days and if you do its normal to feel like that right now.your sex life wont change just if you have outbreaks then you wont want to have sex as you need to let that area heal the same with your partner.

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I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I've had herpes for almost 2 years, so don't feel like your alone, millions of people have genital herpes and some of them don't know that they have herpes. It was the same for me, I was in shock and depressed after I found out that I had genital herpes. Many people don't know that they have herpes so they don't bother to get tested for it. Good for you though for getting him into the doctor.

Things will get better over time, honestly it does. Out breaks are supposed to get less sever over time. Give your self some time to get over the shock and go through the motions. Since my boy friend and I both have herpes my sex life isn't any different then it used to be. You should know herpes is not always tested for in a routine std test, usually it's a test you have to ask to be done. Herpes is not life threatening and it does nothing to your reproductive system. You can live your life as any other person does. Herpes is an annoying skin condition and having it down stairs is not fun.

I can't tell you what to expect since herpes is different for every one. You may have out breaks after this one or you may not have another one for months or years down the road. But since this out break was rather mild, you may have relatively mild out breaks in the future...count your luck that you may not have to experience a big painful out break.

There are two types of herpes simplex virus: HSV-1 and HSV-2. Both virus types can cause sores around the mouth (herpes labialis) and on the genitals (genital herpes). Cold sores are caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV).

Cold sores sometimes called fever blisters, are groups of small blisters on the lip and around the mouth. The skin around the blisters is often red, swollen, and sore. The blisters may break open, leak a clear fluid, and then scab over after a few days. They usually heal in several days to 2 weeks.

The herpes simplex virus usually enters the body through a break in the skin around or inside the mouth. It is usually spread when a person touches a cold sore or touches infected fluid—such as from sharing eating utensils or razors, kissing an infected person, or touching that person's saliva. A parent who has a cold sore often spreads the infection to his or her child in this way. Cold sores can also be spread to other areas of the body.

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I found out that I had herpes almost three years ago. For me life hasn't changed too much. I think the worst part is just feeling nasty and knowing you have an STI. The hardest thing for me was telling the guy I just started dating that I had it. To my suprise, he was ok with it!!

Just some info in herpes. It is way more common than most people think. 1 in 5 people have GENITAL herpes, Yes not oral but genital. Between 50% to 80% of the world have oral. 90% of the people who have it does not know to due to never having visible symptoms. Herpes in not tested in most routine STD testing. Herpes can be spread even when there is no visible symptoms. This is refered to as "shedding". This is when the virus is active and can be spread without and actual sore. Using Valtrex, wearing a condom, and not having sex during a breakout will reduce risk of transmission to about 1% a year. Over time this increases due to being exposed more. Herpes can be spread to child during birth. But there is less than 1% chance of this happening. If your doctor sees a sore (which they checked me thoroughly) you will just have to have a c-section. (not sure if you are wondering about this or not, just throwing it out there)

The first breakout is usually the worst. With time most people don't have as many breakouts and they are less severe when they do have them. It would be smart to talk to your doctor about Valtrex. In most cases if you take this for a year, it will help out tremendously with breakouts. I personally have one sore from time to time and my doctor said he doesn't see a reason for me to take it daily, just during breakouts. Now that I met someone who doesn't have it, I will get on it to help reduce the risk of transmission.

It will affect your sex life in some ways. You both still need to take precautions and don't have sex during an outbreak. As far as sex life in the future if you and your boyfriend don't work out, yes it will affect it. You will have to tell each partner and some might not except it. (so far I am 2 for 2 though so more people except it than you would think). Also you will have to take ALL precautions not to pass it an unifected person if you choose to engage in intercourse. But you can still have a wonderful sex life and things do easier over time. I was worried about my sex life, and it hasn't much different.

Make sure to wash your hands after using the restroom (something everyone should do anyway) and have good hygiene. Also use some common sense and things will be okay.

I live a wonderful life, with two amazing kids (both I got pregnant with after contracted this virus), two good jobs, wonderful family and friends, and have met a great guy recently! I have noticed the more positive you are, the more positive the outcome! I look at this as a huge wake up call for me. It yelled "quit being young and stupid"! Because of herpes I have become a better person, I really have! I am more choosey when it comes to being with someone and that helps find that perfect guy!

Keep your chin up!! Be thankful that you didn't get anything deadly, and use this to be smarter in the future! Always be tested before sex and have your partner tested too! ( I know I never listened to that before, but I do now!!) Good luck to you and I wish you the best!

hey, it is not the end of the world, nor is it the worst. I have a few friends that have it, and sadly they also had partners who had no clue they had it or carried it. I know many meds are available now. Also stress can bring it on. Even if you have no signs of it , when you think it is in remission, you can still pass it. It can be passed with oral too.If your Fiance really didn't know, he must be rid of guilt. I'm sure you have gone with a roller coaster on emotions here, but he will need support too, work together about this, support, not to say anger might not be there at times, but if you can pull through this together, it will only be better for a stronger life together.I know it is easy for me to say, I'm not you, I'm just thinking out loud. Be kind to yourself. Peace to you, :o)

Don't be afraid, thats the number one rule. I got diagnosed about 5 and a half months ago, and I've only had one outbreak. The way I got it obvious- but in a way completely not my fault and I was in so much pain and so lost I wanted to die.

I know in your mind your thinking... (Its a disease...it'll never go away...theres no cure...) but the reality is that they have medicine to keep the sickness at bay and prevent outbreaks.

Im only 16 years old and was 15 when I was diagnosed. Im here to tell you the world is not ending and you will be fine.

Sex life will be the same if you can find a loving comitted partner.

You can get up to a few outbreaks your first year of contracting this disease, but for the most part you may be lucky enough to only get one outbreak ever.

For more help, email me. I have some good pain reliver, and unpersciption medicines that may help you.

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Your statement implies that only your boyfriend has been to the doc.How come you haven't?

Go to your local STD clinic.They deal with this every day and are the best to go to for advice Even your doctor only deals with a small number of STD cases compared to the clinic.