should i sell my house b/c my husband wants me to?

NO NO NO NO this guy wants to clean you out . don't sell your v-home after he divorces you, that's were your go to relax ja ja ja (im kidding) no but getting down to the truth don't ever let him or anyone tell you what you can do think about the future what good times you can have in your vacation home. i bet you saw yourself growing old there with your partner. im assuming this is not your first marriage don't let your guards down.i don't know you but keep and eye on this guy. what r u going to do sell your v-home and spend the money then look back in the future and the home the money GONE don't do it.tell your husband never to ask you to sell your v-home.

I personally would be very leary of selling a home ive had for 15 years for a man that ive recently married.. why? because of the unknown.. more then likely ur husband realizes that u owned this house prior to your marriage, that its in your name, and depending on where u live, he may know he has no claim to that if your marriage fails..also with some men they like control.. fact is thats your house, if u and him have a fight u have some where to go somewhere he cant control and it infuriates him.. even being there, yet knowing this infuriates him so he cant relax there and he throws a tempertantrum like a child to manipulate your emotions into selling it so he can have more control..

But only u know him so its hard to say if this is just a man that doesnt like the vacation spot and wants to change the location, or if this is a man that is looking into the future of how he can either financial bank on this home or a man that is seeking control and is slowly finding ways to isolate your independence so that he can make u co-dependent on him because thats the first stage of someone that is controlling and abusive, they isolate all ur means of escaping them, getting u to stop talking to ur family so much.. stop your interactions with friends.. making it all about him.. sometimes quitting ur job to become financially dependent on them, all the while making u think he's doing this cause he loves u .. then it gets to be to late when his real colors come out and next thing u know ur confused about how u got to this point, how u gave up so much for him, and have no way out now..

outside party looking in at just the little bit u've written.. id bank on the control freak , abuser scenerio .. So i say hold onto the house..wait several years into your marriage see where ur marriage stands at that point.. if ur marriage is all rosey and sunshine filled, then make a joint decision on the house.. but i have a feeling that u'll be thankful that u held onto the house in the end.. good luck..

I am a 46 year old man with lots of experience with money and with people. If you were my daughter or my son this is what I would tell you:

See what he says if you tell him that you have just decided to keep it, and rent it out - that you won't go there for the foreseeable future, but you are not going to sell it. If he gets ANGRY about that, something is very, very wrong. Because then it looks like he wants you to sell it because he has some plans for what to do with the money you earn by selling it. And his plans are likely good for him and bad for you.

I really think he wants you to convert house to cash so he can use the cash. But if he does not complain about you renting it out, then maybe I am wrong.

1. Who brought most/all the money to the marriage?

2. Do you have a "prenup" that protects you?

3. Do you realize that even with a prenup, if you sell a house and put the proceeds in a joint account or in any way commingle the proceeds with any of his money - even one dollar - you put your money at risk.

Be careful...

If your vacation home means anything at all to you, you should keep it! Be careful not to give up too much of yourself, your husband doesn't sound very giving. You have said you were recently married and he has already left you twice. My best advice is to talk to a lawyer and learn how to protect your assets. If your marriage were to go south (I hope not) the proceeds from your home would be split down the middle. But if you kept the house, you would probably get to keep it, because it was yours before the marriage.

Do you like the vacation home??? You I don't think there is any need of selling it. You can always have tenants there, its a very easy and stable way of making money. But if you don't want to do that then there is the question if you like it or not...if you do then don't sell it because you like it and also you can sell it when you actually need some money for something important...but if you don't like the place yourself then I say go for it...

you may easily stress the sale of the domicile, yet you will ought to bypass to court to do it. tell your sister which you will provide her 30 days to coach for a private loan to purchase you and your different sibling out. Get an appraisal to make the deal honest. She is legally entitled to a million/3 of the fairness. If she refuses, bypass consult with a real sources felony expert (not a popular practice felony expert), and clarify what you will possibly choose to do. he will draw up a letter, explaining which you would be able to not "stress" somebody to stay in a real sources transaction, and he or she incredibly desires to get the ball rolling on paying for you 2 out. If she nevertheless refuses, the felony expert can report a healthful, which will bypass till now a choose. in the experience that your sister is financiall unable to purchase you 2 out, or can't qualify for a private loan, the choose will order the sale of the domicile, based on the appraisal (and supply or take a undeniable proportion), and could order each of you to receive a million/3. she will then ought to arise with the money, or circulate out, if she will't purchase you out. you're probable thinking what's her incentive to maintain the placement clean at the same time as the domicile sells? He can easily order her to vacate the premises early (if she interferes with the sale) or state that for each greenback which you're actually unable to get for the sale, is via a minimum of something she did to the domicile...it is going to come out of her a million/3. In a nutshell, that's what occurs. you have a felony ideal to get out of the transaction and there is amazingly little she will do to end the technique.

This has been your home for 15 years and you enjoy it, so don't get rid of it. If you sell it and then buy another home, then he then can get part of the home if you divorce. He is trying to control you and if you do this then he has won. I would watch and see what else he is doing. He doesn't sound like he really loves you if he can just pack and leave you there. sounds like he may be a gold digger.

I have to agree with brwneyed.

This is your house, your investment. If you were to sell, he would have easy access to the money and what you have worked for.I would leave the title as is and use it as a rental if he is so insecure about himself not to be able to get himself to go there.

He probably will tell you to sell the property, buy another property with his name included on the deed, that way when you split up, he will get something out of it.

Do what you want to do. Don't sell it because he wants you to. A vacation home on an island sounds like a good thing to hang on to

No way! Keep it! Maybe he just wants access to the money to be used for something else like a house elsewhere. If so, make sure any new property bought entirely with the funds is still in your name only. Otherwise If he doesn't like going there for trips then rent it out and use the rent for other things...or holidays elsewhere.