if you picked up your 3 year old from day care and she was crying because someone hit her, how would you react?

um, well that happens and i wouldnt really be going off on anyone. there was a bully in my daughters preschool class, i began by collectively asking the teacher to watch this little girl, then, go to the parent of the child. the behavior is learned somewhere... this little girl was nuts and so was her younger brother. i did feel a bit stuck but i never went off

Well a 3 year old that is crying because another 3 year old hit her is not unusual in a public day care is it? Did he leave a mark on her? IF he did then I would be in their face demanding he be kicked out of the school or I would pull my child out.

Screaming, hollering and making a big fuss is pretty senseless and unacceptable in my opinion. Kids hit each other - that's pretty normal. You didn't really say she was hurt or injured or marked - CRYING isn't necessarily indicative of being truly hit or injured so maybe more details would help here too if you wanted a clearer answer that is appropriate to the situation and circumstances.

Going crazy at the director was a bit much if you ask me....

Kids cry - I never wanted my kids to be wimps either...so???

I would go in and talk to the director face-to-face, and ask if a conference could be made with the other child's parents. I would also see if either my child or the other child could switch classes, or at least be kept separate. I would NOT like my child to be around someone that hurts her.

How old's the kid who hit her?

I would feel protective and territorial, I think that's natural for any mother. But if it was a young kid, I wouldn't hit the roof. These things happen, and kids hit. As long as he had been disciplined appropriately and my daughter had been comforted properly (before my arrival) then I certainly wouldn't take it out on the director, unless there is something about it that you're not mentioning, this seems pretty silly to me.

i think you kind of over reacted, if the kid that hit her was younger he probably didnt know any better, and plus kids hit kids, its not great but it happens, I would probably consoled my daughter and then the next time I took her in I would talk to the person in charge and ask that they keep a closer eye on the boy so that he wouldnt hit any other kid, especially not mine, but again you over reacted.

i would calm her down first of all and confort her and so forth then i would go back in and look for the kids mother or father and i would complain to the manager that none of the workers there did nothing about it

i would have done the same thing as u except im sure my family would have been involved ad u should report the daycare so other parents would know about your experience and that daycare and how they handle things. good luck and i hope your lil girl is ok.