How can I cure my insecurities?

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Alright, I won't bore you with all the details that no one wants to read. Basically I've had the life that no one wants to have or admit they had...Abuse (verbal, mental, emotional, physical by both parents and partners), rape, and relationships where my partner cheated. All this causing problems such as multiple times on suicide watch.
I recently got engaged, and he knows about my past and has always been caring and supportive of me in every way. But I've still got the insecurity that he's going to find someone else and leave. So much to the point that when he's tired and he can't really keep up his end of a conversation I think the worst. And it doesn't stop with just conversation, it also carries into the bedroom. I don't like taking my shirt off due to the fact because then you can "see me" and I don't feel good enough, or attractive.
This is going to ruin my relationship. I can't lose him...he's all I've got at this point. How can I get more comfortable with my body and try to move on from the past?

crafty · Accepted Answer

Other that professional counseling, only you can help yourself. You are worth a lot more than you are giving yourself credit for.  Congratulations on getting engaged! Obviously, he sees a lot in you. Focus on the positive things that you have to give. You can't change the past, but you can plan the future. Insecurity will only bring you down  and cause problems. Think positive. What are your good qualities? What do you like to do? What does he like about you? Try everyday to find something positive about yourself. To find true happiness you must first learn to make yourself happy. You can't rely on him to complete your feelings. THINK POSITIVE ABOUT YOURSELF. Best Wishes

Anonymous · Answer

long term in the past grow to be so insecure approximately myself -somewhat my actual visual charm.. I overcame it by way of thinking that why would desire to I be insecure? i'm a typical person and that i'd desire to be happy with who i'm. there are dissimilar homely human beings and useful. this is an argument of guts. So i unfold my wings and confronted the international. I additionally tried to placed on outfits that is going nicely with me...Then i began out to get compliments that advance my self assurance... Felling low and unsightly is basically on the strategies... yet human beings don;t quite care the way you look...

Anonymous · Answer

You have been through alot, you said you recently got engaged? This is a new big step in your life. Dont let the past stop you from starting a new life. You should use Victoria's Secret......lol you will feel more confident and beautiful......If that doesn't help you should speak with a counselor. well best wishes :)

ButteredToast · Answer

ive had a similar situation, i know its hard as hell to let go of the past, but you just have to. you cant keep holding on to this stuff, itll drive you  mad. stay with the present, youre alive, got someone who loves you, got someone to love, and have a chance to start over. just completely forget about tthat stuff. while youre sitting there being sad and suicidal, everyone whos ever done anything mean to you is having a good nights sleep. so just let it go, because if you beleive in a higher being or anything like that, that higher being will take care of it. plus, theres karma. but just let it go. that person loves you and they will help you if you are willing to help yourself.

Patrick · Answer

Set some personal goals to improve your body.  As you see your body improve you'll see your self esteem go up too and won't feel insecure.
There are many community health sources you can look up online for your area.  Since you already have identified your insecurity with your current BF, change it or you'll drive him away with it.

ME · Answer

awe.Hunny this is normal reactions to all that you have been through.You must go to a therapist.

Princess Cupcake · Answer

GO TO A FREAKING THERAPIST YOU IDIOT.

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