How can I get my husband to start picking up after himself?

if it's shared bills and other important shared documents and he doesnt feel the need to file them, then the only thing left to do is file them yourself.

if it's his personal or business items, then get him his own office desk or a whole room as his home office and dump it there.

if he's taking his mail from his desk to other parts of the house, then just keep tossing his mail back onto his desk.

obviously, he couldnt care less about being respectful of you and the house's cleansiness, so you're going to have to outdo him by matching his actions one by one.

Are we married to the same man??? LOL

My hubby used to do that. I have OCD about my counter tops for some strange reason. I would clean an area and within minutes he would put something in the spot I just cleaned.

Honestly, I just told him it made me crazy. I bought a basket and put all his stuff in it, and he has gotten better. He still does it sometimes, but when I give him "the look" he laughs and picks his stuff up. When he wants to aggravate it is the first thing he does is put something on my counter.

Just talk to him. Something so little really meant a lot to me to get off my chest, and now I at least have clean surfaces sometimes!!!

Leave it, a friend of mine had the same problem, but it was dirty clothes and dishes he was leaving around. She told him one day that she was no long going to go around the house and collect his stuff. If he wanted clean clothes, he would put in the hammer, if he wanted clean dishes he'd put them in the dishwasher or sink. Then she stuck by her rules. She left it, she would wash dishes she needed and do wash her clothes. They didn't have any kids at the time. But after a while he would stop bring his friends over and start asking her why she wasn't cleaning house like she should be. She told him what she has said before about where stuff goes and he started doing it.

Stop enabling, and let it pile up until he DOES notice. Tell your friends what's going on, and they will understand about not coming over.

Alternately, you could just throw all of it away, and when he whines that something important was lost, say too bad.

One more idea...start dumping it all into his car. Most guys take pride in their vehicle and that may be the one thing that gets his attention.

ONE of these is bound to work! Good luck.

Come to some kind of compromise, if these papers are for his job and he still has one with those kind of organizational skills, then he is doing something right.

Maybe get him a desk or build him a small office for him to make a mess of anyway he wants. Anything outside of that area must be kept clean.

Wow, he does not sound like a actual large guy. Sorry. it fairly is such an offensive and ignorant physique of techniques for him to have. you're likely working extra durable than he's! fairly in case you're falling for his manipulative bs and actually cleansing up after his lazy, disrespectful techniques. Do you not have already got your baby and your self and your living house to preserve? to not point out the grocery identifying to purchase (which I HATE and is a considerable activity in itself), laundry, vacuuming, etc? I learn this couple as quickly as - a marriage therapist asked husband and spouse to jot down down each and every of their "to-do" lists. the subsequent week they introduced them in. The husband's checklist went down approximately 0.5 a bite of paper. The spouse's checklist replaced into 2 and a 0.5 piece's of paper long! No ask your self, quite, precise? It stated that this discrepancy and scarcity of expertise from husbands motives extremely some resentment from the different halves. No ask your self there, the two. i'd only recommend which you stumble on the thank you to stand as much as him. do not %. up after him. If he leaves his outfits on the floor, positioned them someplace the place he's beneficial to step on them and bypass away them there. once I holiday over my husbands boat-sized boots, I throw them in front of his workplace door so he journeys over them! they have have been given to income to be certain it from our perspectives. it fairly is talked approximately as empathy and men have an exceedingly confusing time gaining information of empathy. sturdy success.

If you wanted to be married to a man who picked up after himself then you should not have married your husband. Marriage is not an institution to change someone into the person you want to be married to. When you said "I Do" that meant you accepted this man as he came, with all of his faults and quirks. If you didn't like some of his faults and quirks then you should never have taken those vows. There are two things to do, either pick them up and put them away yourself or leave them where they are. But you have no reason to complain since this was the man you CHOSE to marry, imperfect, as is.

girl i have the same problem but its with dirty cloths, I blame their mother for not teaching him any better. they don't understand that you are not their servant but only their Companion

OMG, if this is your biggest issue in your marriage then be grateful because you have a GREAT marriage! Really, rethink nagging about it and accept the good.

you can't, you just need to hang in there...