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Anonymous asked in Pregnancy & ParentingToddler & Preschooler · 1 decade ago

How much do you play with your toddler?

My lil one is 3yrs in october, shes very hard work like most toddlers but the one thing I can't handle well is "Play with me mummy" this is all I hear virtually all day long and it drives me insane.I play in the morning, by the afternoon I can't take it anymore so I will either take her the park,indoor play area,swimming or some other kiddie fun place for a few hours where I play with her, then when we get home its "Play with me mummy" and I'm exhausted, she hasn't had a nap, went bed late, got up early you can see shes also tired but won't let up. My house is disgusting now -if you saw a picture you'd be horrified, the 2 living rooms are full of toys it looks like toys r us after a tornado, actually every room is like that, I can't wash up or change the cat tray until my hubby gets home to keep her amused for a bit.I daren't try to clean while shes around because once I start anything she won't let me continue - she whinges so much I start to lose it & end up giving in. If she does play alone she starts lolling about moaning shes bored and making me feel guilty.I do work 3 days week so I suppose when I get home & the other 4 days I feel like I should be making it up to her.

Do your toddlers do the same?

Update:

Aria- thanks for your insightful words of wisdom :o)

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  • 1 decade ago
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    It sounds pretty normal. I have my daughter help me with the laundry (loading and unloading) and I got her a little broom and dust pan to 'help' when I am sweeping the floors. Or you can tell her you will only play with her when she picks 1 thing to play with and the rest of her things are cleaned up. Have her set the 1 toy she wants to play with aside and have her start putting everything else away, while she is doing this you can clean other areas or get other work done. Also look for something called a Time Timer. It is a clock that counts down and you can see the red disappearing as it gets closer to 0. You can get one of these and tell your daughter you have to work for 20 minutes, set the clock, and then tell her you will play when the red disappears, if she interrupts while you are cleaning, bring her back to the clock and remind her it is still red. If she interrupts a second time, add more time to the clock and remind her again that you will play when the red is gone. This works great for my sister, sometimes her daughter just sits and watches the clock (not the most educational of activities, but she gets some work done!) Good luck and don't be to hard on yourself or your daughter, its all about finding a balance that works for your family.

  • 1 decade ago

    Toddlers are demanding, that is true, but there are ways to keep it to a minimum!

    Maybe you could get your daughter involved in the chores as you do them. Make it like a game for her. She needent be expected to was all the dishes or anything, but try getting her to help put washing in the machine, folding dry clothes (even just socks or something small), give her a duster so she can 'dust' cupboard doors etc. This can work a treat - she will still be with you and joining in another 'game' and you can get your chores done at the same time. It also has the added benefit of getting her used to chores - she will be more likely to help out around the house when she is a bit older.

    Even the tidying up you can turn into a 'game' - see who can get the toys into the toybox quickest etc (this works really well if they have a competitive streak!!).

    Another thing you could try is make a time that she plays alone, maybe in her room or something. Even if it for an hour. Kids need to be able to play alone as well as alongside others, so it will benefit her - no need to feel like you are ignoring her.

    Try not to feel like you need to 'make up' time to her - it is the quality of time you spend with your child, not the amount of time that really counts!

  • 1 decade ago

    Yeah my little boy is almost 2 and the same. He cries if one of us leaves the room and closes the door behind us, if I go upstairs he follows me, if I want to do washing I do it before he wakes up. If I wash up he just tugs on my leg or whines (he can't really string a sentence yet) If I sit down by myself he brings his toys to me lol. Invest in the fabric baskets for their toys, can get them in dunelm mills for £1.99 dump all the toys in there, at least it teaches them to be tidier as well and you can have a clean house in 5 minutes.

  • 1 decade ago

    ALL DAY LONG! lol

    My son looks to me to entertain him most of the time... When I need to get something done tho I just include him.. He turns into "my lil helper" He helps with the dishes, the garbage, laundry... when I want some "me time" then I just put in his Go Diego Go dvd and let him watch that for about 30 minutes(since that is all he will watch.. he hates to watch tv..lol

    Source(s): Mommy to a 21 month old
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    1 decade ago

    Some are worse than others...my 1st child was a real one for playing alone...she wouldnt watch TV but liked to play with her bricks and raw for hours...my youngets is now 18 months and she likes me to entertain her a lot...I try to do things I like or incorporate my housework into play...I get her to load the dryer or empty the washer....it helps a lot...I also give her water in a big bowl on the patio..she loves that...and we sing and dance a lot as I quite like that!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Just say no, i say ill play when im done working. When the work is over ill play. Don't let her manipulate you, put her in her room with her things. Tell her do not take these out of your room or you will loose them. If she cant listen, time out. Be firm about it, you need personal time. I refuse to let my child do that too me. I will take everything she owns away from her if she cant comply. Shes 3 also, Tatum's get her put in her room by herself and the toys never leave that room. I take them away and put them in the closet. I have a gate on her room so i can put her in there to play independently while im doing what i need to do.

  • 1 decade ago

    Toddlers are very, very demanding. They play, learn and demand that you play and teach. What works for me is that the family are involved, brothers, sisters and parents so we take shifts when I need to rest the most.

    If you are lucky enough to have that kind of support then use it.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    lol she has you trained

    i work five days a week (need to not choice)

    so play time is limited

    my solution get your child involved in chores

    fetching things while you was the dishes

    washing the plastic unbreakable stuff while you dry

    or

    be firm play one game then you tell your child you have to do 15 mins work then you will play one more for 15 mins its amazing what you can get done in short bursts

    your child wants your attention that's nice but she has to learn a little flexibility

  • 5 years ago

    in case you would be babysitting on a familiar foundation i think of notably quickly they'll settle for her.She continues to be very youthful,maximum babies her age i do no longer think of somewhat play at the same time,they only play around each and every orher.it somewhat is large which you have different babies on your loved ones on the brink of her age,this could help her discover ways to socialize greater useful interior the destiny.

  • 1 decade ago

    omg woman, i understand & i seriously don't know how ppl have children every day and deal with it LOL but really, i'm being serious. I'm in same boat somewhat and i really don't understand how ppl have multiple children lol.

    Source(s): i'm there, luv my little guy
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